Advice with dating someone with a baby momma , sorry if it’s the wrong spot to do this
So I’ve been dating someone for 18 months on and off with 2 boys 8 and 5, and a baby momma.
I’ve been offended thinking he’s too nice
To her while he claims to not having feelings for her. She cheated on him invited guy friends over while they were together and didn’t even sleep in the same room with him the last 3 years they were together. Anywho.
He found out one kid wasn’t his. After they split: the first one. Now he pays 1300$ child support for both. And she is always asking him to watch them more days than he has them.
I asked him to file for 50/50 and I’ll help with drop off and pick up, so we can get more of his child supper back. He said he wants to give her a chance to get money so he doesn’t want to file for 50/50 yet . Even though he paid all the bills for her the whole 7 years they were already together. So he’s withholding filing for 50/50 to help her out and I find this extremely offensive. When she’s treated him like crap for years. He says all the time, it’s for the kids. And now she’s asking him to come to an eye appointment with her so she can take one kid on while he watches the other. I just find this all a little over board. Am I wrong ?
Meanwhile it sounds like she never brought anything to the table. Never paid for anything but her own stuff. I just got out of an abusive relationship. I live somewhere I have no family support and she has tons. Compared to me. I've worked my butt off not to live off of anyone or ask for child support. I'm really thinking I should leave this guy. This is excessive.
The whole time I’ve dated him
I’ve gotten him decent gifts, and paid half for fun things we’ve done. He can barely even afford his new mortgage after paying her this much child support yet he wants to give her a chance to “figure things out “. I’ve tried to explain to him she has him wrapped around her finger. He is the most naive person I’ve ever met. Idk what to do… should I leave ? This is why I’ve been on the fence with him forever. But he really is the sweetest guy I ever met I jsut feel like I’m being shorted when he’s too sweet to someone that screwed him over big time
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Just wanted to say - I actually really respect that you care so much about this that you're reaching out to people who may have some helpful advice. If I had more time I'd try to help but if no one else has gotten back to you by the time I'm available I'll try to come back to this. Good luck regardless!
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