My bf and I haven’t had sex or seen each other in a little over a month.

Idk if he’s cheating but I don’t think he is. We don’t live together and he just started a new job so his hours have been really long and his days start at 4am so he’s tired during the week and then on the weekend he’s either busy with like prior obligations or tired. I couldn’t see him last weekend when he wanted to go out but how the hell do I fix this. I need sex 😫 and he said he won’t be able to see me until Sunday

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Somehow you both need to make time for the other or this won't last long.

If he’s that busy I doubt he’s cheating. Try to make time for each other

How far away does he live? I wouldn’t automatically think cheating, starting a new job can be exhausting mentally and physically especially with unsociable hours. But if he’s ok with not seeing you for that long maybe something seems a little off?

Why don't you live together?

I don’t think anyone is that busy not to make time for someone. My partner works 48 hour shifts in the medical field and still finds time to do stuff with me. I wouldn’t say he is necessarily physically cheating but he may be entertaining someone else. A month is a long time especially if you live close.

we live maybe 30-40 minutes away depending on traffic. Before this job we saw each other at least once a week, sometimes more.

because we have only been together for 2 years

But you have a baby together?

You could try setting a regular day e.g. we see each other every Thursday no matter what and see if that makes a difference.

This seems weird to me. My husband and I saw each other more than this when we were living in different countries! He needs to make time for you otherwise it doesn’t seem like he’s serious about your relationship

no. I have a child from my marriage and I’ve been divorced or almost 4 years.

in our community

Bestie where are you?!

Hey I really need to make some friends being a mom is so lonely. Distance does not matter to me (I can’t see waves)

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

Maternity leave Employment rights?

I have 6 weeks left of work and they have completely changed my job spec including my job title and all my responsibilities, they have done this ahead of advertising my maternity cover apparently to fit business needs which I am fine with but i explained as long as it doesn’t effect me before I go. They have now turned round and said they want me to do the training for it before I go and want me to sign a variation in contract asap. Are they allowed to do this? I thought you had the right to come back to the same job within 26 weeks and I haven’t even left yet and they’re changing it? I was going to see what the job was when I got back and go from there but now they’re wanting me to sign this change in contract before I go I don’t know what to do, do I have to sign it ?

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️