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My son just turned 15 months old and still doesn't point at anything with his finger. He doesn't understand when I ask him to show me where something is, and he can't show me where mom or grandma is, etc. Should I be worried? I've read that this is a fundamental part of communication in toddlers and that this gesture should appear between 9 and 12 months. He also doesn't talk yet

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Does he make good eye contact and respond to his name? Does he understand any basic instruction? Does he engage with you whilst playing with a toy he likes?

@Fary Yes, he responds to his name, he can maintain eye contact. He knows for example how to clap, he can play peek-a-boo, but he can't wave. When I play with him, he seems to be interested, but he gets bored very quickly

Following - Wow exactly this with my son, HV did flag the lack of waving and pointing. Everything else is good, responding to his name, eye contact, please give me this, would you like a drink. He looks at daddy when I say where's daddy but no pointing or waving. He claps and plays peekaboo too. He's also not walking yet, but is making progress in his own time.

As to the attention span, I do know they're really only able to 'concentrate' a minute for their age so don't worry too much. 1.5 minutes ish is about normal for any one activity

I think my daughter learnt to point from me pointing to things in her books then after a while I'd ask her to show me. It took a few weeks of lots of repetition!

Don't worry. We were thr same and he started pointing on Sunday. He was born 02.10.2023. So far he is only pointing at trees from the pram or the ceiling. To complement his favourite word which is "up" lol.
Regarding showing maybe he just doesn't want to obey your request. Sometimes if I want my LO to walk somewhere I will say "I can't find daddy, where is daddy can you take me". Try finding different ways of saying the same thing maybe one of them will work.

Or if you have several adults ask grandma to show where daddy is etc. That helps a lot getting another adult to help demonstrate what something means.

I sung a lot of wind the bobin up which has point to the ceiling etc. He used to just bang his hands on the floor or door instead of pointing to them 😅 . now he just points to the ceiling and is then fixated on the nice lights. I sang the pointing bit much more slowly due to attention span/getting distracted.

For wheels on the bus he only does the wipers on bus wiping action... for the while song.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope