Build a bear

My daughter is 5 and just learned about these stuffed animals and her half sis has 4 stuffed animals from there.Husband got her one when she was a baby. Grandma got her one . Grandpa got her 2 . All when she was younger . My daughters friends talk about it and sees her sis has one so today I took her to get one . I don’t make much money so I have to be frugal and I know it’s about the experience but I can’t help but think everything is overpriced . Anyways I let her pick something out and let her pick two accessories and my total was about $55. I figured she can get additional accessories when her bday comes along in a couple months. I’m embarrassed to say this but after that we went to the dollar store to get small things like a blanket and small leash (she got a dog stuffed animal) and other misc small things . My daughter LOVED everything . The experience was worth it for her . My husband called me out for being so cheap and that I’m embarrassing. I did what I could and I don’t believe in putting things on my credit card if I can’t afford it .

Then it made me feel resentful because if he got one for his oldest why can’t he for our daughter . Secondly his parents got one for the oldest as well then why can’t they do it for their granddaughter. I don’t expect anyone to do anything for my daughter and I provide with what I’m able … however now I feel dumb

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Tbh I would turn around if he has an issue and say well you get her one then. If she was happy with the cheaper stuff that’s such a win! I think you did the right thing

yea that’s exactly how I feel . She’s at an age where she was happy to just get one . I just feel embarrassed I guess .

It doesn’t help that last Christmas sd got one and they didn’t think to get one for their youngest granddaughter when she said she wanted one too . I know I can’t change or expect anything out of others but it’s upsetting when I’m doing what I can for my daughter and I’m still being judged for it .

If they say anything I’d just fire back at them that they get one for one and nothing by for the other. As long as you’re doing what you believe is right by your daughter that’s all that matters. Maybe for her birthday or Christmas you could treat her to one

I understand completely why you would get accessorise elsewhere and if he didn’t like it he should have payed. However I remember something by similar happening and although I was very greatful I was embarrassed that I could never have a complete thing because it was too expensive x

Maybe he should be giving you a generous monthly stipend to spend on things for your daughter so you don't feel pressured about money or "embarrass" him. 🙄 You're doing great. I almost can not believe he said that...

yea I let her get two accessories and the stuffed animal and everything else I was thinking no we can wait until an occasion before I splurge on getting her more things if she wants …

I just hope I didn’t “ruin” the experience for her

yea I don’t care if he or his family says I’m cheap because they’re not paying for it so it doesn’t phase me but I hope it doesn’t embarrass my daughter . That’s what’s bugging me now

Doesn't solve the problem right now, but just a heads up - build a bear does a "pay your age" birthday promo. You have to sign up for their free rewards program then you can make one for $6 on her next bday

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Am I in the wrong?

So my MIL has been weird with me from day 1. My partner and I fell pregnant within months of seeing each other so we understood her reaction to me being pregnant was never going to be positive.

She then started going through a divorce when I hit the 12 week mark and we moved out, she didn’t reach out for a couple of weeks but we assumed she was just busy with lawyer stuff so didn’t pester. However weeks then turned into months etc. my partner would text his mum and she’d ignore the texts.

I was 8.5 months pregnant when she decided she wanted to come back. She apologised to us both directly for being absent my entire pregnancy and explained she was depressed, struggling etc. we decided to forgive her and let it go.

Our son was born August 2023 and the first year of his life she was present and a great grandmother to him, don’t get me wrong she was still “off” with me like whenever I would speak about my son she wouldn’t respond to me, she would come over and not really engage much with me, make snidely comments about me going back to work at 5 months PP despite the fact I’m providing for her son to be a stay at home dad etc but I just thought I’d be civil for my son. We got engaged in October 2023, she didn’t congratulate us.

January 2025 she started being VERY OFF. She deleted me off all social media’s for no reason, blocked my number. My partner asked why and she said she didn’t like me as a person. So I decided from then on if she wanted to see our son my partner would take him to her.

The rest of 2025, she was very inconsistent. We would ask her to take our son as she usually would and she’d say “can’t I’m dying my hair today” and silly excuses. We then had 4 miscarriages that year and not once did she send condolences or offer to support. It got to August, our sons bday and she got him 2 of the same gifts we did - she came to our house and I said aw it’s okay these things happen no big deal. Her mood changed and when my parents arrived my son got really excited and she left. She then text my partner that night saying my parents were rude to her and turning our son against her? 😂 he’s 2!!!!!

My partner had enough and had a go at her, saying no wonder my son was excited to see my parents when he sees them every 2 weeks. Since then she went in a mood and stopped speaking to us and visiting or allowing my partner to visit.

We fell pregnant in August 2025 and this baby has stuck. We shared our pregnancy with family and she hasn’t contacted us. From August to Feb 2026 she was radio silent, hasn’t asked for our sons at all. Ignoring texts.

Today, she has contacted my partner to try apologise and worm her way back in, I told my partner I’m having none of it and she won’t be seeing our son or new baby as she yet again has disappeared for over 6 months for no reason which isn’t fair on us or our son as he’s getting older and more aware!

Am I being reasonable? The way I see it is if this was a parent acting this inconsistent and being deadbeat they wouldn’t be allowed to run back in.

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