First Baby at 39 should I have another ?

I'm 43, turning 44 in July... I just had my 2nd baby on November 30th. My only issue was my high blood pressure, so I gave birth 5 weeks early due to preclampsia and high liver enzymes. It put a lot on my body and health, so I told my husband, "This will be last." If you have no health issues, I do say go for it. I wish I could possibly have one more, but with what I went through, I can't do it again.

I had my first at 40, and the second three months ago just after my 42nd birthday. Pregnancy with a toddler is not for the weak but I really feel complete now 🥰 go for it! You’ll be surprised how much love you have in your heart ❤️

I had my first at 33 and second at 45. I didn’t plan it like that but the girl made us wait a looong time (like a diva ;-) )

41 when I had my first. If it's right for your family and you, then go ahead

@Eva My son is 19 (I was 23), and now 43 when I had my baby girl. The age gap is definitely surreal, right?

I’m 43 and pregnant with my 4th and il be turning 44 a month after she is born.

I’m 42 and 35 weeks with my first! I have had an easy pregnancy and have enjoyed every moment. I also live a holistically healthy lifestyle and I think having good health going into the pregnancy and during is a huge part of it.

Only you can answer that. Like previous poster said, if you have no health concerns then that def makes the decision more open. My 2nd was at 39 and I'd have had another but I have a uterus that spits them out super preemie. So I shut that down. Having a 3yo at 42, idk that I'd wanna have a newborn now. I'm tired out lol

I got pregnant right before I turned 40 and had twins. Your mom likely to have twins as your older especially if fraternal twins run in The family

Following! I was 38 when I had my first and am 40 now. Other than mental health issues (but Ive had those my whole life) it was an easy and healthy pregnancy! My husband and I just started trying in earnest because I've had some mental health issues postpartum. But we would love to have a second! If not though, I'd be at peace with it because one already has me perpetually tired! It's a different experience having kids when you're older, that's for sure!

I had my first at 39, second at 40, and now I want a third!

I think the age gap has its benefits! The teen is happy that we are not too focused on him and the toddler girl is a very demanding one so I am honestly happy that at this age the teen is fully autonomous! We avoid putting baby sitting burden on him but he can still help when needed :) also, they don’t argue as most siblings :)

I'm turning 42 next month and my 3rd is due in April. Had my first and second at 35 & 37. If we go for a fourth it's going to have to be soon, but haven't decided yet. Might depend on how this post-partum goes. Just be in the best shape you can at the start and expect to be exhausted for a couple of years. A 2-3 year gap is probably nice, so you aren't constantly cycling through all of those early childhood milestones with both of them. I feel like things calm down a lot during the late 3s.

Thanks everyone this gives a lot to think about 😍I love being a mom I wish i started sooner !

I had my first bub at 40 and have just turned 43 while pregnant with my second… both healthy pregnancies, just very challenging with a toddler this time!! I highly recommend listening to the Great birth Rebellion podcast - there’s one about pregnancies over 35 where they talk about all the research, it’s very reassuring! Goodluck!

I was 42 when I had my first. Blood pressure was slightly iffy but never a real problem, though I started following the Brewer diet and had to make sure to get enough calories and salt to keep it in check. Pregnancy was not that fun but not that hard (no worse than most in my due-month group and better than many). I handled labor and delivery just fine (and, again, had an easier time than many!)

Many ladies are fortunate to have a healthy birth in their 40s. I was told to get a dog instead.lol I’m 47 though and my pregnancies were rough . My two boys were born when I was 36 and 38. As long as you’re healthy(per doc) go for it

I had my first baby at 38, and my second at 39. I'm 40 now and we are talking about having a 3rd. I say go for it!

First at 39, second at 41 and I'm now 43 with our final surprise daughter who is 3 days old. All healthy pregnancies, though I think I had easier symptoms this final time.

I had my first at 25 and my second at 32. Im 42 and trying for #3

I had my first at 39 and we’re trying for number two. We’ve given ourselves a cutoff point though of when we’re going to stop trying. Our bodies are just as capable but we do get treated differently! We decided on a cutoff point because we also don’t want to be 60 and have kids just hitting their teens. Also, we want to see our kids grow up and maybe be around to meet our grandkids.

Im 41 with 4 kids. I regret having them so late. I wanted them just not this late in my life. I don't always have the energy and two of my boys have autism. It takes a lot out of me being my age. I wish I had them in my late 20s. But that's my advice. Everyone doesn't get tired like me and I'm not out of shape it's just tiresome though. Just being real no sugar coat.

You guys sound just like my husband and I. You absolutely do get treated differently and, at least for me, it is more difficult to integrate with parents twenty years my junior. No shade, we're just in very different stages of life. I will say, my daughter has given me more motivation to be healthy. I set a goal to live long enough to live to see her at my age when I had her (38). I think I can do it but I gotta try!

I have a genetic kidney disease and it’s recommended to limit my self to 3 pregnancies. I had an easy healthy pregnancy, however it was delivery that was not so great emergency c-section with an infection and my blood pressure was all over the place and stayed in hospital for a week. If you asked me then I was traumatized and at 6 weeks had iud put in because I was sure I never wanted to do that again. Also side note: epidural didn’t work all the way and was in labor for 32 hours before they decided to c-section. It was crazy town. But every time I think about my baby and the love 💕 ugh my insides are screaming for another baby.

Only you know. I had my first just after turning 41. I had a great pregnancy, she is 16 months. Love being a mom and we would love to give her a sibling if possible. But as for now she is still nursing so/and I haven’t got my menstruation back yet.. so we’ll see how what that unfolds. So don’t get too stuck on the specific age number but instead how you feel and how your body feels about it:) good luck ❤️

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My kids inspire me to be more healthy as well. People be like umm u don't look 41. ....I'm like yeah ....but I def feel like 41 😆 I be tired as hell by end of the day raising my 4 babies.

I had my first at 24 and pregnant with my 4th at 42. I was a young mum with 2 kids under 2 in my 20s and then focused on my career for 12 years, then had my 3rd at 39 and pregnant with my 4th now. Honestly a bit scared about negative reactions from people for having a baby so late, though I really wish people were less judgemental, though again I don’t look 42 but family and friends and colleagues reactions are what I’m scared of as they do know my age!

@Naz My first was also at 24 and my second at 43... son is 19, and baby girl is 8 weeks. No negative judgments, just a wow. You are starting all over, but still got lots and lots of love and support from friends and family.