My mother-in-law wants my baby to call her mom

Show him pictures of her when no one’s around and teach him “GRAND-MA” 😂
Tell your husband it’s inappropriate, if he’s dad, why would she be mama. He should deal with his parents

That is bang out of order! I would be angry too!! Your husband needs to deal with his mum and tell her it’s not ok. My mum wanted to be “Mami” as its French I said it was too close to Mama (I live in the uk) and didn’t feel comfortable so we came up with a different name for her which she actually loves it’s still used in France so she’s happy a “Mima” if your MIL doesn’t like grandma there are loads of other names to choose from!!!

We live in Nottingham. I’m not from here but it’s common here for kids to call their grandmas mamar. I don’t like it so we don’t use it but loads seem to

She can have a nice name like glama but ain’t no 2 mama

Talk to your husband.
If he still doesn't get it, tell him if there are any granddad's will go by dad. See how he likes it.

If she doesn’t like being called grandma then tell her to come up with a nick name like Mimi or GiGi not Mama as that’s your role and name to your child. My MIL doesn’t like to be called grandma either and she already has an establish nick name her nieces and older grandkids call her. She just asked that we refer to her as that when speaking to our LO about her. That’s weird. Your LO will know who mama is. Mine will see pictures of me and say mama.

Call her what you want. And then it will stick with the child. My son calls my mil nanny, and she apparently decided she wants to be grandma, but I'm like, sorry, he calls you nanny, it would seem your nanny 🤷🏻‍♂️ I don't know when she suddenly decided grandma as we specifically asked, and I wouldn't have taught my son nanny if she asked to be grandma, but she's adamant 😂

Neither of my daughters grandmothers (on either side) wanted to be called grandma. They picked whatever they wanted but Mom wasn’t in the table.

yeah, or she can say mama to her LO and point to herself. LO knows who their mama is.

Just explain that it’s your child and you’re not comfortable with confusing him by calling 2 people mama and she will known by grandma/nan etc. It’s very odd and I definitely would not let my child call anyone mama but me! X

Next time she refers to herself as Mama, immediately end the call. Send her a text and let her know that until she chooses an appropriate nickname, there will be no more calls.

There are tons of cute nicknames for grandmothers. Mine were Mamaw (pronounced MEH-maw) and Mee-Maw. I know several Mimis, a NeNe (pronounced knee-knee), a NeNa (KNEE-nay), a Glamma, and a G. Depending on your MILs actual name, there may be some cute options there; I know a couple of women named Paula whose grandkids call them LaLa and a Sandra who goes by Gran San.

Bottom line, there are TONS of good grandma names. "Mama" is not one of them.

“So you shagged your son then?”

That’ll dampen her enthusiasm to play mummy. Or start calling her husband daddy cause grandad gets love too.

Wow girl that’s crazy but I think putting her in her place is the right thing to do and I think you just need to be blunt with her and say look I don’t talk to you and I don’t bring my kid around you because you’re trying to be my kid mom and you’re not you’re his grandma. I would tell her I’m the one that was pregnant with him for nine months. I’m the one that birthed this child, which means I’m mom you or grandma and you need to learn your place and you need to learn that you don’t get to tell my son to call your mom because you are not his mom and however, you word it just be blunt with her and clear and put her in a place sometimes that’s the only thing you can do. I had to do that with my mom when I had my son when I was pregnant with him and she came up to visit. She didn’t even say hi to me. The first thing she does is come over and hold my belly and say hi to my son and then when he was born, she started trying to take over the role of motherhood

And I had to put her in her place and cut off contact with her.

What in the actual f*ck. I would flip

this right here!! Teach your son what you want him to call her before he learns from your MIL to call her “mom”!!!

if i did that. She will cause a huge issue to my marriage. (Arab culture is very strange in that matter)
She does not want to use any other names. I tried talking to her about it and she was like ewww …. Me grandma ewww … no i am mama !
And i was very firm with my answer you are a grandma and i am the mom.

But every call she does that and really annoys me.

that is exactly what i try to do … but imagine every call she keeps referring to her self as mom and to his grandpa as his papa. And if my husband is fine with that does not matter but i am not okay with sharing my title!

i think at some point that will happen. Cause she will never stop.

to her it is her grandson so like a son in a way! And yes i am the mom but she is like the mom of all in her mind!

she does not care. Cause she was like and i do not like the sound of grandma …

he does not care… they are also trying to teach him that my father in law is his dada as well!

I did talk to him but i know him. He will comfort me with words but do not take any action.

interesting… i have to look more into the name and see if she might accept that

totally agree. But i know him too well that he wont deal with them.

He never covey to them anything i do not like or hate.