Clingy and upset

Any advice?

Baby boy is 5 weeks old and has suddenly started becoming a Velcro baby. Screaming non stop until held, refusing his bedside cot for naps and needing contact and it’s now happening at night. He won’t sleep unless held which is pretty dangerous cause I’m parenting solo atm and have to juggle a newborn and a 2 year old. I’m scared I’ll fall asleep but I really have to sleep 🫠😴

Tried swaddling but he has silent reflux and has scared me choking. Tried walking away but he just gets more wound up or wakes the toddler and doubles my workload. He’s fed, he’s dry, he’s warm.

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Hey sorry you are going through this. If he’s got silent reflux diagnosed it’s probably that? Did you ask GP for advice? Other than that it just sounds like standard newborn behaviour unfortunately and it will pass.

my daughter had the same thing but she was the total opposite and loved her crib and being a big starfish 😆 she hated being restrained or held. I know they are both different babies but my days do I need sleep. Just scared I’ll fall asleep holding him (which I hate to admit I have already twice). I can’t even leave the room to do chores or see to my toddler without him flipping out about being lonely.

thank you, that was last nights position 🥹

me too 🤣🤣🤣 but i did wrap both arms around and not just the one.

My boy was the same...all advice and best practice went out the window. I just needed to survive.

What I learnt....

get a good carrier/sling for the day time, so he's close but your arms are free. Most areas have sling libraries where you can trial/rent some out and they'll help you get a good fit.

Co sleeping is not the devil... just make it as safe a possible.
https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

https://llli.org/news/the-safe-sleep-seven/

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-northern-ireland-67916722.amp

We also lifted one end of his cot up so he wasn't flat (ie a folded towel under the mattress, so the sleep surface itself is still flat and there's nothing to get buried in)

Secure a worn t shirt over the mattress so it smells like you.

Try to do what you can when he's napping (if he doesn't wake)

Take any/all the help and have a breather now and again. Xx

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope

Sleep

My baby is now 8 months and we have a sleep problem.. he refused to sleep during the day , I need to rock him for about 40min then have break and try again even though he's clearly tired , sometimes he doesn't have the last nap because it is impossible to put him down. For the last few nights he wakes up every hour with cry and most of the day looks tired. I was at the GP and everything seems fine. Don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have the same issue? How to deal with it?