Postpartum in men/women

Does postpartum affect men deeper than women? They are the providers, they have to deal with lifestyle changes too..

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Does it fuck 😂😂

true, it’s a big change for fathers too but i don’t think it’s comparable to what women go through

Not all men are providers.

But no way is it comparable to what women go through when they become a mother.

If the father is a great father then yes. They experience post-partum just as hard as women. If he is not a great father, then his life will feel the same- they will still go out, see friends, gym, do sports, work and their body and sleep wont change much at all. If they are a great father, they will be sleep deprived getting up to do night feeds, lose sense of identity, recognise their body is changing, experience losing friends and feeling isolated because they dedicate to supporting mum and baby. If the father isn’t pulling in the hard yards, mumma won’t feel supported, and that’s where mummas may feel it’s incomparable.

I have to heavily disagree. Yes they have to deal with some lifestyle changes, maybe, but for the most part they don’t have the accompanying hormones, emotions, same level of sleepless nights, struggles with feeding, healing from growing a baby/potential labour interventions/pushing a baby out, they don’t have the same risks for their health, or worrying about all the appointments to keep for themselves/baby… it’s definitely not the same for men and women - and that’s even if you have a “provider”.

Absolutely the fuck not. It can absolutely be hard on fathers too. But the hormones alone are wicked

Thank you ladies. 😂 a group of men attacked me for saying postpartum for men is not as intense as it is for woman! We apparently “think we have it harder bc we push out babies and in reality, we don’t have it harder” is exactly what I was told lmaooo

I still don’t even think the greatest father in the world will experience postpartum at the same intensity level as women. Mostly due to the drastic hormonal fluctuations. Men do have fluctuations of hormones from the new babies arrival but like not even remotely dramatic as a women’s.. after birth is the most intense and rapid hormone depletion anyone can experience in their life. Not even puberty was that extreme 😂

We were both affected in totally different ways but I definitely got the lions share of the difficulties and lifestyle changes. And it resolves quicker for them than it does for us. Women take two years to recover from having a baby, men are over it much quicker

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope

Sleep

My baby is now 8 months and we have a sleep problem.. he refused to sleep during the day , I need to rock him for about 40min then have break and try again even though he's clearly tired , sometimes he doesn't have the last nap because it is impossible to put him down. For the last few nights he wakes up every hour with cry and most of the day looks tired. I was at the GP and everything seems fine. Don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have the same issue? How to deal with it?