Fighting with Husband at 8 months pregnant

I just need someone to vent to. My husband wants me to go to my parents house for a couple of days cause he says our future looks like ass.
I know my pregnancy hormones have crazy…. I was upset that he went to play soccer today cause I just wanted to go out and spend some time together so we got into an argument cause I was upset. And then we were trying to talk it out and he keeps saying like I’m so unsupportive and ungrateful and that I ruin his days. I asked him like can you just comprise like one Saturday a month just hang out with me and he’s like that’s such a joke the fact that you’re even asking that is ridiculous…. So I asked like when the baby comes am I not gonna get a break on Saturday mornings like is that just going to be on me and he just blew up. I literally brought up that I’m feeling really over emotional like these past few weeks have so hard- like emotionally and physically like it’s beautiful to create a life but I just don’t even recognize myself anymore…. And he came back and was like you’ve been sick since we got married

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It doesn't sound like he is "fighting fair". Lots of accusations and big statements about your behavior that aren't relevant to the issue at hand. Then again, this is being told from your side of the story so idk if you are fighting fair either. I would take a couple days apart as he is suggesting, use the time to process your feelings and collect your thoughts. Maybe write a letter to him talking about how you feel. Focus on "I" statements and how you are feeling, avoid saying that he "makes" you feel a certain way and avoid judgemental statements. Also try to be curious about where his feelings are coming from. Sometimes it's easier to communicate thru writing cuz it's not as confrontational and full of body language that can be misinterpreted. The objective is to understand each other. See if he seems willing to do this.

I’m sorry this if hard for you two.
It doesn’t feel good to be criticized like that. Especially when it feels like you’re just asking for some time.
Truth is, you’re not gonna recognize yourself after you become a mom either. And that’s okay. Mom you is gonna rock!
And family is the best support you can have right now, so if it’s comfortable and simple then being with your family might be refreshing before baby comes. It’s clear he wants to make sure your taken care of rather than him storming away to a friends place.
Also check out John Gottman. He’s an author on some incredible books. One of his books even reduced the amount of arguments my husband and I have.

I'm really sad for you that you're saying you know your pregnancy hormones are crazy because you have valid concerns. It's not a "joke" to ask for quality time. It's not unreasonable to discuss schedule and responsibilities post-baby.

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