How do you take care of yourself when you are just too sad

Im 38w. My self steem is so low, I feel worthless, useless and a terrible mother. I have a toddler to care for on my own and as much as I try I can't get over the idea I'm letting her down, I'm not doing good, I'm a horrible mother. Everything I do is wrong. I don't trust anyone. I have no friends, I have no family, excep for my mother with whom we are staying with and the person criticizing everything I do with my baby. I have bad memories from her house but I have nowhere else to go. I used to do self care, I was so confident on how I was raising my daughter, I would do my skincare every day and night, now my eyebags are terrible, I look dead, I'm tired all the time, I barely shower, the skin on my hands is cracking and bleeding, I barely eat a meal or two a day (literally no one notices if I eat or I don't) how do you even take care of yourself feeling like this.

((Toddler is fed 4x times a day, teeth brushed, nails cut, hair brushed and styled daily, clean clothes, bath every other day, diaper changed as soon as used, she is fine I would never neglect HER))

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When did you circumcise your baby?
If you DID NOT or DO NOT have a circumcised son DO NOT comment this post is not for you!

Did you wait a certain amount of time or have it done immediately?
Again respectfully, this is only for the parents who choose to do so.
opinions about how not necessary it is will not be appropriate for this post. Thank you in advance. 🩵

Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

I feel like just a milk cow

Hi I have a 16 day old via c section, I'm a FTM never having been around babies before as I am the youngest of my household and from a small family. My husband is fantastic with our little one. But ever since I've had the baby I just feel like the only thing I'm good for is producing milk. I feel disconnected from my husband like the only reason he's around is because am producing milk. We were having some issues before the baby and we're struggling it took a while to feel like he was onboard even though he said he was from the moment we found out. I dunno if I'm feeling like a spear part because I'm lacking confidence with baby or because I feel like he wouldn't mind being a single dad. Is this postpartum hormones or something else?

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

How long did it take for your child’s circumcision to heal and you could give him a bath?

I’ve just been wiping him down with a fiber wash cloth but I just wanted to know from others experience on how long it took