Anyone else feel like they are drowning?

I don't know who to turn to right now. I'm 4.5 months pp, a single mom, co-parenting with an abusive ex, and I think I'm losing my best/only friend. I love my baby so much, but my mental health is petty bad recently. I have been struggling to find a therapist and I'm having a really hard time coping. I was trying to vent to my friend today about something that happened and she didn't really seem supportive at all. She mostly made it sound like I should be able to keep up with housework and such now that I'm 4 months pp. I feel like a failure. I had told her that I just want to be good enough and then her response made me feel even worse. I just feel lost and alone. I don't know what to do anymore. Anyone else struggling?

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Girl if you need/want a friend to text you can message me! I’ll listen and support you! 💗 (no pressure ofc)

Sorry to ask but doesn’t this friend have kids?

You’re not alone. Many of us feel the same way. It’s ok and normal to struggle for whatever reason. Msg me! You can vent. I started therapy recently it’s helpful but sometimes you just need someone in the moment, at a random time.

It's hard to keep the house tidy, cook, and take care of a baby or kids. We are not meant to work every waking hour. Take care of your baby and do one task a day until you feel better. ❤️

she has a 9 month old

Talk to me were in same boat

Girl taking care of a baby alone is a looooot. I’ve been feeling the same lately and have breakdowns on the regular. But you’re stronger than u think 💕 just keep doing what u have to. I think it’s helpful to just talk to someone and let all ur frustrations out

You are so strong !

Hey I’m going through a little similar I completely understand how you feel mama feel free to text me to vent talk or be friends. You’re doing amazing 🫶🏾

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