Baby blues

So my newborn is now 5 days old. I have a 2.5 yo girl too who has been the centre of my world which has made this change so hard (i think harder on me than her). Baby blues are hitting hard, I feel so low because of the change up. I had 1.5 hours sleep last night as baby wanted the boob most the night and struggled to settle, luckily her dad is taking the toddler on fun days out but I feel like part of me is mourning and missing the old family dynamic we had.
How is everyone else coping with the newborn slotting into their family? Please tell me I'm not alone 🤞

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You’re definitely not alone feeling like that!! Day 5 is the worst day for baby blues.
My little boy is 18 months and I definitely mourned the routine we used to have - my husband primarily looks after him at the min and I look after our new boy. It definitely gets easier and those feelings do ease off - I’m just over 3 weeks PP and getting into the new routine of everything.
You’ll get there but just be kind to yourself - these days are hard but they aren’t forever and soon they’ll both be running round together, it goes very quickly! Xx

You’re not alone ❤️ I found the early days in particular day 5 so emotionally hard, I’m only just over 2 weeks PP now and things already feel better. I have a 3 year old and she’s been amazing but I’ve felt the same in particular one of the hardest things for me recovering from a C-section is not driving or being able to take her to preschool or the classes I usually do but I know in time I will again and I can look forward to future weeks and getting into a new little routine with us all. I’ve accepted the extra time with dad and other family members has been nice for her and them and feel lucky she has that. It keeps getting easier x

I was the same I really struggled the first 2 weeks to get used to the new dynamic with our baby girl needing me so much and not getting as much time with my son (18months). The hormones that first week are unreal.

We are now 5 weeks in and adjusting to a new normal. I have had to accept I can not do as much with my toddler as before. But I make sure he gets some time with me each day baby free. Involving him in taking care of the baby and I a loving watching my son and my husbands relationship grow as he was previously a mummy’s boy.

I am sure there will be many more adjustments to come but know you are not alone and give yourself some grace it’s a big life change and your hormones are causing all sorts of emotions right now.

Happy for you to message me if you need too x

I could have written this myself! My 2.5 year old girl has always been my absolute world and I’m just so sad I can’t be there for her as much! Here if you want to chat about it as share our sorrows 😂🥲

In the same boat! I have a 2.5 year old little girl and a 3 week old little boy. The first two weeks were awful, I didn’t feel as if I was bonding with baby boy because I was too worried about how my little girl was feeling and it broke my heart! I’m now 3 weeks in and slowly starting to feel a little better about the situation. We have given our eldest best friends for life, although it’s difficult for them to adjust at first it soon becomes the new normal and they love their little siblings just as much as we do! Don’t be too hard on yourself xx

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Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Crying during feeding

Hey mams! My girl is 6 weeks on Monday and is having so much trouble with feeding. It doesn’t happen every feed but more often than not she will start a bottle and just start crying as if she’s in pain and she can’t take the milk. I think it’s trapped wind but I genuinely don’t know what to do it’s so pitiful to see her not be able to feed! She’s formula fed and on HiPP Organic.
Anyone else been in this position? I’m pretty sure it’s just a bit of trapped wind that she needs to fart out but can’t! If anyone has any advice I’d be very grateful as I think I may need to tape my eyelids open soon 😂

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳