Can someone in the UK explain the pre-school/reception/school process to me? Is pre-school the same as reception? Does one come first? What age do they start? What age do you start touring schools?

Sincerely, a clueless American living in the UK šŸ™‚

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I have a 2.5 year old & I’m wondering if there’s anything I need to be doing yet to prepare? And if not now, when? I’m lost 🄲

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Nurseries are 1-3 years old, pre-school 3-5 and reception 5/6 years old

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Pre-school is from 3 years old and you can find preschools at either a day nursery or part of a primary school. This isn’t mandatory and you usually have to pay / or you get 15 hours free funding from the government which goes up to 30 hours if both parents are working.
Reception is the first year of school, children start reception the September after they turn 4. Hope this helps ā˜ŗļø

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Pre-school/ nursery school comes before formal education and goes up until the age of 4. Reception is our equivalent to Kindergarten and is the first year of primary school, age 4-5. If your child is starting school in September 2026 like mine, they will be born from September 2021 to August 2022, and you will need to start touring schools this coming September and apply by November. I hope that helps! X

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Preschool is from age 3-4 year old which u can use the 15 hours child care voucher for. So that’s 3 hours a day for 5 days
Reception is in the primary school which is full time age 5
4-5 then year one is from age 5-6. U can ge the funded hours if you are on universal credit which is 15 hours
And u can 30 hours if u are working

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Early Years Teacher here - Preschool usually starts at age 3 and depending whether you send them to a school-based setting or private setting you may continue into that primary school. You apply for a primary school place in your catchment area the winter term before they start school e.g. my daughter will start in September 2026 but I can start applying from November 2025. Preschool isn’t an essential but is recommended to get LO used to routine etc. if you/you and your partner are working you could be eligible for funded hours too which will bring the cost down. Hope this is helpful!

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My daughter was born August 2021 and we've just applied for reception (1st year of school) she will have just turned 4 when she starts. We starting touring schools in September and applied between November and January.
Anything before school/reception is a personal choice

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Pre school is 2-3 years old (paid / funding available if you meet requirements)

Nursery is usually 3-4 years old. (This can be attached to a school or an independent nursery)

Reception is 4-5 years old. (when they start school)

All children at 3 are entitled to 15 hours funding at nursery. They start the term after they are 3. You can start looking around nurseries and applying a good few months beforehand. I know for the coming september intake the latest to apply was January. Some you can apply earlier.

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Preschool is not same as Reception.

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Nursery is up to 4 years old. And in nursery there is usually baby room, toddler room a preschool room. They go to preschool room from about 3 year old. They start in Reception at 4. Schools also have preschools which are from 2-3 years onwards. But those are term time only.

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My daughter was in preschool age 2 and we did 2 days per week 9–12 at the cost of something like Ā£80 per month. When she turned 3 we increased it to 5 mornings per week. Although she could stay there until she started school we moved her to a school nursery age 3.5.

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I think it’s the other way round in the Uk, nurseries are usually up to 4 and preschool is 3-4 and most kids get 30hours now from 3

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Pre school is usually the 2 year olds from what I've seen. But it could just be dependant on the school / provider regarding what name they use.

Our preschool is 2-3 years old. And then they move into the other room which is 3-4 before they start Reception the following year.

And yes! 30 hours for 3 years old. 15 hours for 2 year olds if you're working. Thanks for the correction

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Thank you everyone! So helpful

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so if my son was born in October 2022, that will mean he starts reception in September 2027 - correct? x

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That’s correct

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Also, your child can go into infant school or primary school. Infant school is YR-Y2 and then you apply to Junior School. But Primary Schools are YR-Y6.

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Yeah they’d be starting reception in sept 2027, so you’ll need to start touring schools sept 2026, most will hold open days Oct / nov time, and then the application deadline usually December / January. You apply through your local council and they’ll have their own dates you need to adhere to. For example my application deadline was 15th Jan and we find out where he’s got a place in April to start this Sept.

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You can put a baby in nursery etc, then Pre-school is the stage before reception this starts at age 2 until your child is old enough for reception age 4, reception is the early years stage in school, this is age 4-5, then they go into year 1 after reception which begins proper school which is when they’ve turned 5 and will be turning 6 x

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Preschool or nursery class is age 3 to 4 years. When they start reception they are 4 and will turn 5 that school year. Most schools have a nursery ( preschool) included, some don't.

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That's right, so you've got a bit more time, you won't need to view schools until September 2026

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