Should I let toddler cry it out

I did Ferber method and it was great. After the first week of crying he slept through the night 12 hours straight for the past 11 months now(except when sick). It sounds like that little bit of crying will be worth it in the end. I also got my son this light up octopus stuffy that I turn on before I leave the room and it plays songs for about 7 minutes so if he’s still up he will press the button more. I like that he has some sort of light/lullybye and I’m not just leaving him in complete darkness!

https://www.amazon.com/B-toys-Turtle-Glowable-Soothing/dp/B07BQCZVVK/ref=asc_df_B07BQCZVVK?th=1&psc=1

I can’t find the exact one but it’s something like this, mine plays rock a bye baby though not just white noise.

My husband and I are against the cry out method. It causes more harm than good. I signed up for motherhood so I’ll be there when my babies need me. It impacts their trust with caregivers and has long term effects as well.

Can you get him like a little night light maybe so it’s not dark. I would also say good night lay him down and leave the room if he cries wait a few minutes before going into resettle and do this a number of time. Also what’s your routine could he possibly be overtired?

They aren’t silly at this age x

We did Ferber method when ours was about 9 months old but literally by the 3rd night it was like something clicked and he just chilled out and went to sleep. we have the same routine each night of pyjamas, brush teeth, turn his red light/red noise machine on and read a couple of books and then he goes to sleep

@Amy i actually do have a nightlight but sometimes he plays with it 🤣it's a little light up cow. I try to get him ready for bed by like 8:40 and then I change him and read all few books and then put lullaby music on . But he usually doesn't fall asleep until 9:15/9:30. I'm trying to make bedtime earlier though. He gets up from his nap around 3:30 🤔

@Korissa i actually did ferber before too , well on and off as he went through alot of sleep stages 😅 it did go pretty well before but it's been awhile and for some reason I feel worse letting him cry as a Toddler 😫that light up toy is so cute tho thank u I may need to try that !

I love that anti sleep train moms never give any advice 😂 just “I’m against it and we still have hard nights” like okay?! So you guys just came to bash & state that you are against it and have no solution or advice for her? Anyway. Ferber method is great, my son trusts me entirely, cries for me when he needs me, cuddles me all the time and is a well rested boy that has no crazy psychological issue just bc he cried for 3 nights for maybe 30 mins total lmao. He is MUCH happier sleeping 12 hrs through the night than he was waking multiple times a night not entering proper REM sleep 🥰🥰

wow that’s quite late for a nap for a 2 year old. Can you drop this nap? Or shorten it and wake at 3. Then aim for 7.45 bed think 8.40 is quite late x

My son is up at 10am, naps 1-3/330, bed at 9:30/10 and sleeps through every night 😄 we don’t do the 7-7 schedule either! Idt that’s the problem.

Sleeping past 3.30 will be your issue what time does he get up at in the morning can you not do nap around lunch say 12/1230 for 1 hour or just over and start bedtime routine at 7 so in bed for 730? Also ive been sitting with my son it can take up to an hour too but i just see it as not his fault and he wont need me forever im also due in a month and thinking of all the change for him too with a new baby have you a partner who can help with bedtime

We seem to have had a revolution with this using an Alexa. I set a timer on the Alexa and will sit with him until the timer goes off and then mummy has lots of “jobs” she needs to do. Started to timer with ten minutes were now down to 2! We’ve also introduced the Alexa timer with other daily struggles such as when the tv goes off, when he needs to get dressed, put shoes on etc. I’m not convinced the novelty wont wear off but for now it’s doing the trclick!

@Lisa yea i might try to get him to nap earlier and then wake up by like 3pm . No I don't think my husband will be home most of the time at night cos he started a new job so he isn't getting any paternity leave or anything :/

@Kimberley yea he's just doing one nap. I do think he still needs a nap , he gets cranky on days he doesnt . Yea I was thinking to have him get up a little earlier like by 3pm. But he was going to daycare part time and he would wake up like 2:45 from nap there and we would still have the same issue usually 😫but I may try that having some rough /active play before bed !

try and play about with your routine a bit and see how it goes i know its so hard ive started sitting next to my boys bed and ignoring his chat ill chat with him for 5 mins and say no more talking its bed time and i sit with my eyes closed and pretend im sleeping and hes started going by himself when i used to pat him
To sleep x

No kids did not come to earth to cry it out. Crying it out to me is very toxic as a child doesn't yet know any other coping mechanisms. An alternative is reaffirming "it's ok go back to bed, I'm here in the other room" type of vibe over and over. When a child is crying it's bec they are having a hard time regulating. My opinion! But everyone is different!

amen!