Feel guilty for crying whilst pregnant

I feel so bad crying - I’m so sad and this is supposed to be the happiest time of my life. I’ve always wanted a baby, but being completely alone and with mental illness and constant backache and sickness that comes and goes. I feel miserable :( it’s not my baby’s fault I’m so grateful for this baby, I just wish I didn’t feel this way whilst carrying them

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Hey lovely, pregnancy is an emotional rollercoaster, you should not feel guilty at all for crying!! It’s hard work and takes it’s toll on your body not to mention all the hormones being all over the place!
Listen to your body and cry when you need to, it’s a release and nothing to feel bad about.
Try and rest as much as you can and just look after yourself. Your health is so important as your little baby is growing inside you and needs you to be healthy for when you finally meet!
Are there any pregnancy classes near you? It might help to meet some other mums to be and know you are not alone in what you’re feeling! Maybe like a hypnobirthung group or an pregnancy yoga.
You got this!! Xxx

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thank you, it just gets hard. I have been crying a lot this week. And I’m not sure I will take a look at if there are. Thank you so much for your kind words 🥹 xx

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You shouldn't feel bad about crying, like Katherine said pregnancy is truly an emotional rollercoaster. Your body is going through changes you can't control. Plus this is mixed in with the backache and sickness, so your going to be emotional. I used to cry for completely nothing I didnt even have sickness. 😊

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Yeah absolutely, it’s really hard! Your body is going through so much right now. You’re growing a human being!! Give yourself some credit, you are doing an amazing job xxx

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thank you xx

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thank you xx

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@Jess Hey, you've got this! I wish I had found this group sooner because at the beginning, I was going through a similar situation to you where I was feeling alone and with mental illness. You are not alone! Please feel free to reach out if you want to talk..sometimes that's all we need xx

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sorry you had to go through that, and thank you so much. I really appreciate that xx

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Don’t be sad. Pregnancy is a glowing beautiful experience is a myth. It’s physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, intellectually and psychologically a rollercoaster ride. I felt so disconnected from baby, didn’t feel motherly love, was always in discomfort and in pain but after birth. It’s opened a new universe of happiness and love for my baby. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I wouldn’t ask for anything else nor can imagine being a mum to anyone else but her.

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Please don’t feel guilty. You can be grateful for baby but still feel all those other emotions!

Pregnancy and beyond is such a wild ride! And when you’re feeling so physically unwell, it’s totally normal to feel this way! It’s totally normal to feel that way even without feeling physically unwell too!

You are doing amazing ❤️

Are there any nice things you can plan during your pregnancy, to have some moments to look forward to?

I had a pregnancy massage, a maternity photoshoot and then a very small pre baby lunch with a handful of family (to make it feel more than a usual lunch, I got cute little bits off Etsy I was excited about, and did a mini table set up with a cake). I found it really good to have some positive memories to distract from the sickness etc

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thank you for that message. I needed to hear that. That’s the only thing that keeps me going. This baby is all I’ve ever wanted so I’m glad it gets better

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thank you, ❤️

Erm I am having a girls movie night on Saturday which will perk up my mood. Also I’m gonna start baby shopping next month. I find out the sex of my baby next month too hopefully.

I’m currently unemployed so it’s difficult to be able to do any nice things but I should be getting some agency work next month which will help a bit.

I have been planning my gender reveal party and I’m gonna do an Instagram photo with bits I wil buy online when I find out gender - I’m also looking for any pregnancy groups or volunteer work I can attend but that sounds like a good idea, thank you

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Hi dear, you are not alone- i just cried 2 days ago! Crying is always connected to bad feelings- but i always believe that our baby is helping us to heal, and crying is letting go of old emotions and feelings that are still stuck in our system. so do not worry. (It is the same with our dreams) :) a lot is going on - trust the process, your baby , yourself and the universe💗

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thank you so much ❤️

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hugs and love to you. Pregnancy is a journey and the hormones are REAL. During my pregnancy I made sure my doctor knew about my anxiety/depression, I got a psychiatrist to follow me and I also had a therapist I saw regularly. I ended up going on Zoloft at the beginning of my second trimester which helped me IMMENSELY with the crazy emotions. I still felt my feelings but just at a reasonable level. So if you have the capacity to talk to your doctor/psychiatrist about meds if you aren’t already one some I would highly recommend that. I’ve weaned off now, my son is almost 2 years old. I am very happy I got the medical support during my pregnancy. Best wishes, mama. You’re not doing anything wrong and it’s ok to be sad even if there is also reason for joy in your life.

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I'm so grateful and excited, but have cried nearly everyday, especially in the first trimester. The hormones are intense. It gets better, like I have a better emotional toolkit now. I'm so used to crying which weirdly means I've also gotten better at regulating and comforting myself too, if that makes sense. Try and think of what the word comfort means to you, and how you can provide it for yourself and what people close to you can do to help. Although I'm 40+2 now and beginning to cry out of frustration lol, hurry up baby!!!

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thank you. My midwife knows about my anxiety/depression - I’m currently on waiting list for therapy but they said they’re trying to push it bc I’m pregnant. What’s Zoloft ?? I’m scared to go on meds I came off anti depressants a few years ago and I don’t wanna go back on them if that’s what that is as it really messes me up. Thank you so much for your response x

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thank you so much, I hope it does get better. Im only 15 weeks +1 , that does sound extremely frustrating I hope baby is welcomed into the world soon ☺️

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these sound like some lovely plans! I hope they uplift you a little ❤️ and totally get the trying to do nice things on a budget, that’s really tough. Hope some agency work comes through soon 🤞 and some groups to join sound like an awesome idea!

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