Would i be in the wrong?

You’re her mom and you know what’s best for her. If you don’t feel comfortable with her spending time alone with your MIL, that’s your decision to make as her mother. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty for the choices you make when it comes to YOUR children. I have very few people who I trust alone with my kids, and I stand by it. It has never become an issue for me, thankfully. My husband and I are on the same page when it comes to who has access to our children. Is your partner in agreement with who should be alone with your daughter?

@Tayla I agree with you, but as time passes, my daughter is getting older and more confident around people. I think she's going to start asking for her. The problem is my partner is a real mummy boy and most of the time has her back over mine. He agrees to a certain extent like, for example, we do not change our daughter in front of any man. We take her into a different room, and he agrees she deserves privacy. But then he will still throw at me "my mum is her grandparent" "she knows what she's doing she's had kids before" she's had 3 boys so she never had to really keep her children separate when getting changed etc so I feel they don't fully understand my fears. I just don't trust her at all, and I think if my back was turned, she would have the attitude of "what mum doesn't know can't harm"

Well, unfortunately you may have to make the choice of upsetting your partner if you feel so deeply of her not caring for your child alone. And yes, she may ask for her grandmother, but as her mom you get to choose who she spends time alone with. My MIL has never been alone with my children and my oldest is 7. My husband has always been a mamas boy but he stands by this decision I’ve made based on feelings from the past. Have you tried discussing your feelings with him and explaining that you don’t want to keep your MIL from her grandkids, you just don’t see why she has to be alone to do so?

@Tayla I'd 100% upset him to keep my child safe. Right now my daughter isn't keen on her so she can't take her anyway she just cries, but I've noticed she's getting more confident so then I start with the overthinking😩 & 7 wow that makes me feel better. I bet I can't get my daughter to that age without any arguments. She already tried taking her at 4 weeks. Her excuse was "you need a break". I told her I would decide when I needed a "break". I don't need anyone to decide that for me. ☺️ since then, she's not asked. My partner doesn't understand this fear, and not all men are bad, etc. Which i get its hard though because, I don't know where the fear came from and don't understand it. So how do you explain that to someone when u don't get it yourself? 🤔& your right she doesn't need to spend alone time with my child i rarely leave her with anyone, so she's not missing out...

Exactly. I would take it day by day. There’s no use in making yourself upset over it at this time, she’s still little and isn’t asking to be away from you at this point. Cross that bridge when you get to it, and enjoy all of the 1:1 time with your baby girl right now. You never know what the future will bring 🩷

@Tayla that's so true thankyou 🥰 anxiety is a killer along with overthinking 🙃 I just dread it, but like you say, when it comes to it, I'll cross that bridge. 🫶