Alone

My little girl will be 3 in May and I’ve not
made a single friend the whole time. I dread her birthdays . I don’t know what to do for her birthday as we have no friends.

I am pregnant with my second and will also be due in May. I think at least I will be able to give her a friend in a sister.

I just worry about it impacting her ability to make friends when she is older. She goes to nursery and and she is a happy friendly girl and seems to be interested in other kids. I just feel so bad I haven’t been able to get play dates and friends for her.

I have tried to make friends but I think I’m just the type of person people don’t like to be around .

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Hey,
My daughter is also 3 in May, I’d be happy to meet up for a play date or a little birthday celebration for her? Xxx

I feel this 100%
Inbox me, happy to chat, I’m struggling with making mom friends, my youngest is 3 in May too x

I’m in the same boat. My little boy will be 3 in June and I don’t have any friends to go on play dates with but I know he has friends at nursery so I know he’s able to socialise there. I’ve also got a 7 month old daughter and I’m trying to make new friends at baby groups but it’s hard as everyone seems to have their friendship groups. There’s one mum who I’m talking to and we’ve met once so I’m hoping my little girl will have a friend.
Try not to beat yourself up about it though, if you’re little girl is making friends at nursery then that should mean she’ll be fine when she’s older, plus you’ll have chance to make friends with mums when she goes to school too.

Drop us a DM! We’d be happy to celebrate with you guys 🥳

Hey, same here. I have a boy born in May, message me 😊
We should all meet up and become friends and in may we should have great birthday parties for our kids 😁

Have you asked her nursery who she is friends with? You could have a little party and invite some of those?

We have had our first invite for a party in March but I don't know the parents of the child. My older daughter too had a few parties from nursery friends.

Try not to beat yourself up about it, I find it hard to talk to new people too, especially when tired from parent life! Probably lots of others feeling similar.

Message me :) x

Hi! I have a girl who will be 3 in May & I am also expecting my 2nd in May 🤗
Have you checked out local playgroups in your area? I found the council/church ones really helpful in getting myself and my baby out there to meet new people/friends if that’s what you’re looking to do ☺️

I am in the same boat as all of my friends haven't had children yet. But as a child myself, I remember I started making friends only when I was in pre-school. I had a cousin and my brother but that was it.
I don't worry about it as everything will come at its own time. My son goes to nursery so he gets plenty of time to socialise.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️