Potty training help 😩

We've been potty training for about 10 days now, and my little boy has done so well with wees. He only had accidents on the first day, and since then, he hasn't had any. But for the life of me, I cannot get him to poo on there. The trouble is, he is just holding it and holding it, he's not having any accidents, but I can't get him to go either. He's only gone twice since we started potty training, he hasn't been since Friday now (so today is the 5th day) I'm starting to get a bit worried. He doesn't seem in any discomfort at all, but how do I get him to go 😢 I don't want to backtrack and put him in a nappy in case it confuses him, I don't know what to do though!

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How regular was he before? X

Mine won’t poo on the toilet either and if I force her she doesn’t go so for now I have left it
As it’s not worth the drama xx

@Becky he'd go every day, but always did like little and often ones 😅
Since using the potty, he has done 2 bigger ones, and that's it 🤷

My daughters poops in her nappy were always small now she tends to go every other day but they are huge! Shocks me something that size can come out of her😂 we just made sure to overly praise her and get excited when she did a poo and now she calls me and says "MUMMY COME AND LOOK AT MY MASSIVE POO" he'll get there❤️

Took literally months for my son to poo on the toilet, it’s sooooo hard not to get frustrated. We found a poo song on YouTube that kind of helped. And then massive praise when he did it and asked if his tummy felt better now his poo was out. I know this struggle though, please hang in there!

@Becky sounds the same as my son then haha! He's only been twice on there, but yeah we made a big deal of it when he did it and he was really happy with himself but he just hasn't done it since 😩 just don't know how long is safe to leave it really, 5 days seems like such a long time not to go.

@Naomi I have a feeling my son will be the same 😩 just don't know how long is safe to leave it for, he hasn't been for 5 days now and I don't want that to cause any other problems 😩

The Eric website has a lot of helpful information,if he starts holding it in it will be harder for him to go and he will become constipated and end up in a cycle of holding it in and becoming constipated, I'd suggest put the nappy on for poos whilst also getting a laxative from the GP to help him go because going regular to not going for 5 days sounds like it's going to be painful

@Sumaya thank you, I'll have a look at that! That was my thinking, but I dont know how often to keep switching between pants and a nappy, because i obviously dont know when hes going to poo and he always says he doesnt need to, whether he does or not 🤔 I put him in a nappy this morning to see if that would help, but he still hasn't been since. I think I will have to get him in to the GP 😩

If he's done big poos, they could have hurt... Or did he get any over him? As my daughter was potty trained peeing within 3 days and went for a poo the 2nd day... But she got covered in it and looked traumatised... I was dancing and celebrating and she was just... Traumatised... It took us about 9 months of her poo withholding (didn't do nappies again) and yes the off accident and that which was calm with... Dr's visit for. Movicol... But it took all of her to have a big stinking shit in a kids soft play centre for her to never do it again 🤦🏼‍♀️ that was last August and not had a single issue since!!! All I can say is stay calm... Be positive and praise massively when he does it!

My daughter mastered peeing in the toilet within few days but absolutely refuses to poo in the toilet or potty. I’ve tried to be patient and preserve but she will just cry and hold it in. I ended up putting nappy on her and now she’s used it and will only poo in her nappy 😩 I don’t know how to break that habit now 😩

I could also do with any tips for the poos. He's fine with wees but when he wants a poo asks for us to put nappy on or he will hold it in. He's done it twice over few months on potty and does not like it. He's still in nappy for night time so now he does poo as soon as he wakes to avoid toilet 🙈

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