C-section mummas with toddlers

Baby boy is 3 weeks old today! Partners is officially back to work and as of next week he is back to staying away for 2 nights!

First of all how are you all getting on! I am so ready for a little bit of normality however I’m trying not to wish the days away, I still don’t feel 100% recovered yet I was hoping to be driving by next week! I’m starting to get a bit of fear with what the next couple of weeks are going to bring… this morning was the first time I was wishing I had multiple arms! baby boy was crying for milk, my daughter was full on tantrums and non existent listening ears and I didn’t know how to split myself! My mum is dropping her to nursery whilst I can’t drive so I needed to get her ready for nursery and I’m trying to do this whilst baby is crying I also can’t lift so when Hallie is being a feral toddler I just sit there thinking what am I going to do 😂😂 I’m trying to just ride through it and reminding myself this is all just a stage in life that is going to pass! Any tips on tricks on toddler behaviour is welcome but also needing to remind myself that baby can cry for a little bit whilst I sort things out as I know he is going to be fed within seconds but the mum guilt!!! I need 8 arms 😂 little rant and asking for advice!!!! 🐙 we’ve got this 🩷🩷🩷🩷

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I’m only day 4 and struggling! My toddler is feeling me not being able to play with him so is playing up xx

My LB is 3 and a half so he’s out most days at nursery or with his grandparents. Weekends are harder when we are all at home. My husband’s back at work but our office is across the road so I’m lucky he can pop home whenever.

I don’t feel like I’m spending a lot of time with my LB atm but as you said, it’s just a phase. Not to wish time away but I can’t wait for baby to be a bit older/sitting up etc so they can interact more. She seems so fragile atm and my LB can be a bit too much 😬

C section recovery was hard at the start but it’s better now, although because my LB is 3.5 he doesn’t need picking up etc xx

Heya. My daughter is 3 weeks old tomorrow and my partner went back to work last week. My eldest is 3 next month.

I have to take my eldest to nursery via bus (absolute nightmare but it’s either that or I have them both).. so I found that I wake baby up 30 minutes before my eldest to feed her and change her nappy. So then she’s relaxed whilst I’m getting my toddler ready. This is the only way I can do it on my own. Do you use a sling for baby?

I also ensure that my eldest has a cuddle with baby first thing.. and then yeah just prioritise toddler whilst getting ready. It will get easier xx

ahh yeah I haven’t actually braved it out the house with both of them on my own yet! Do you use a double buggy?? I have 2 kind of baby carriers I’m yet to use them with him though! Xxx

No I use a buggy board which thankfully she’s happy to use as she can keep an eye on baby so that works well for us at the moment! I was also expecting to pop baby in sling and take toddler in stroller but we’ve not had to do that yet. I’m hoping I won’t have to get a double buggy! Xx

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Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope