Partner has booked a spontaneous holiday to America with his friend. I am left at home with my 1 year old and 2 week old - as well as recovering from c section!

Forgot to add he left this morning and gone for 2 weeks x

he's a dick
Sorry

Is this a joke?! Hope you’ve given him a piece of your mind!!

Complete c×nt. How has he tried to justify doing that?
I kind of think it's an unforgivable level of selfishness unless he's just a moron and can't fathom the basics of being a dad/partner...... but still, I'd probably be re-evaluating a relationship with him tbh, he isn't showing that he cares for you or his kids. X

What the hell that would be end of relationship

Thanks girls, felt like I was going out of my mind. Its like I've been arguing with myself over it. His family haven't said anything about it. Acting like it's completely normal.

I’d change the locks

I also have only just come back home- I've been living with my mum for the first 2 weeks of baby girls life because I needed support and he would only take 2 days off work- even though he's self employed! So he's spent a weekend living with new baby and that's it off he flies this morning.i think if I had started and told him not to go he wouldn't have went. But I think the damage is already done at that point. Like u wanted to go and I didn't think about me or the children.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that but wtf you have a newborn not even a few months old a 2 week old 😭😭. Did you communicate it out to him? Also I was gonna say when was this booked but you said it was spontaneous. He clearly doesn’t know his priorities that a holiday with a friend is more important then your partner that’s had a surgery to bring your child into this world 😭. Have you got anyone close by to come help or speak to x

Thankfully family are all close to me. Just never dreamed of having to do it solo. Xx

And yes he had already booked flights and paid before he told me he was going!

I got a week's notice x

This is awful, I’m sorry your going through this xxx

How is he in general? It’s hard to believe this behaviour has come out of nowhere. How an earth does he think it’s acceptable? Even if it’s a stag do it’s still pushing it.

No. If that was out of character id separaye while we do counseling together because we would need to see wtf just happened to make my partner do that to us. And to see if i could let that go! If this was added shit then we'd just end over that.

To leave to a whole other country while im RECOVERING 2 wks post partum? The fucking disrespect. No discussion on it? No arrangements to make sure that i have support while you're away? This means no discussion around finances because how much is everything costing US?! A weeks notice?! Like how did he think that was acceptable?

Um.... How does he expect to have a home and a family when he gets back?