Am I a bad mom or is this normal….what can I do I need advice

Okay so I don’t know if this is my fault but my 17 month old son as much as I love him has been a little terrorist lately like not 100% of the time but enough for me to be a bit concerned like he’s been hitting throwing toys pulling hair screaming in my face and full blown tantrums and just plainly being mean acting like a bully and he used to listen when I would redirect him or tell him to stop but the defiance has been so real the past few days he will laugh in my face when I tell him no about something and then continue to do it I’m currently pregnant with my second and I’m due in mid May so getting up and chasing him has been a lot harder is anyone else experiencing this or has experienced this because I’m starting to feel like I’m a bad mother or that it’s my fault…

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Have not experienced this myself but have a minor in human development and this is a very typical age for toddlers to start to seek independence and want to test things as a way to seek that. It’s also an age where they don’t understand things like “don’t do xyz” yet, and their brains process the verb first, speaking in positives help. For example instead of saying don’t touch that say hands off please. When you say “don’t touch that” all they really comprehend is touch that and then they watch to gauge your reaction. Also give yourself grace, being a mom means constantly learning. This is normal behavior for this age. Also it’s his first time learning how to be a human his age and your first time learning how to parent him at this age because each kid is different. You’re doing better than you think, stay strong and hold that beautiful head high

Totally normal at this age! Welcome to the begining of the terrible 2s, it starts way earlier than you think!

Like above, positive framing helps. So if my daughter's throwing food for example we say food goes in your mouth rather than don't throw food. As soon as you say the thing you don't want to do that's all the hear! She's 23 months so a little older than yours but she started pushing all the boundaries probably around 18/19 months.

She spins round and round with a toothbrush in her mouth and I have to say we stand still or stand still please rather than no spinning (works with limited success though!).

The other thing we've done is where possible get her to be as independent as possible, so if she can do something, we let her do it. Or we give her jobs. So she helps put the washing in the washing basket (and sort the washing!), she helps sweep and clean the high chair. She picks her clothes and then helps me get dressed. I'm hoping this helps for our second (currently due in July!)

Terrible 2's starting early...

My 16mth is the same. Omg the tantrums, hitting her big sis 9yr old btw, throwing any and everything. Its very overwhelming at times. We're at Disney for spring break and vacationing is a challenge. I don't think I like toddler hood lbvs... my first born was easy going. This is feel was sent here to teach me patience...

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Any ideas what this is?

Have taken Eva to the pharmacist, A&E and the GP. They all said the external one is impetigo which I agree with. For her tongue (it looked a bit different yesterday and the day before when they saw it) one said dehydration and one said thrush. Chatgpt now says Gingivostomatitis? She can’t eat anything from the pain and antibiotics and thrush medication haven’t helped. Taking her again to the GP in a few hours. 🙁

nursery this young

My baby is currently 6 months old, and I’m already thinking about going back to work when he’s around 12 months.

Honestly, I don’t really want to leave him at nursery this young, but I also want to continue building my career.

For mums who started nursery around 1 year old — how did you find it? Did you feel like it affected your bond with your baby, or did you both adjust okay?

Am I justified in being upset?

Hi,

So my bestie, lets call her Bea, just bought an apartment. I am so happy for her. Apparently she thinks she only has like 30 daysnto move on her something (she confused me).

So, on Sunday the two of us, my son, 3 of our friends and the son of one of those friends are going to an exhibit of sorts. I have booked a table at a cafe. Bea said she may not be able to come but refused to confirm her other plans with her mums and waited til she was contacted instead.

Annoying but fine. She said she can come.

Then she booked something with her Mum on the Saturday. Not an issue.

Over the weekend she called me and told me about the apartment and said her Mum isn't comfortable/able to drive at night so is staying atbhers Saturday night. No issue, why would it be.

Then apparently because her Mum is staying she has decides on cancelling with us because her Mum is going to help her pack.

This is annoying and has upset me. It feels she is unneccessarily cancelling on us. I also texted an floated the idea of me and/or our friends helping after our catch up on Sunday. She never responded.

Also, we caught up last week but due to issues with childcare (I need someone close by for my son in case preschool called. It was his first day back after surgery) we had to re jig our original plans and agreed if she wasn't going away we would do something Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday this week as that is when I am kiddo free.

She was in communicado yesterday and I was up the coast but was home by like 10:30.

She has also been incommunicado today.

I texted her asking if we were doing anything and she asked of I had any thoughts and about childcare. I said no and he was in preschool so it was all good. She then hasn't responded further.

Also we agreed to catch up on Friday and she knew I was catching a train up the coast at around 1pm. I reached out and she didn't respond til 11:30. I had to say that she knew I was on a schedule and then she said lets cancel. She mentioned she had been on heaps of phone calls. I found out later it was about buying the house. Would a text have killed her though?

Prior to that we had agreed on plqns and she was going to pick me up. She texted when she was meant to be leaving and aaid ahe was helping her flat mate with their smoke alarm. Then she was late and said her Dad rang. She frequently talks through the car so could have driven and talked like she always does.

A few weeks ago we had planned to go apartment huntong togethwr because I couldn't go the previous weekend. Booked it in for Saturday and on the Friday night as we are saying goodbye after trivia, she mentions maybe doing somethinf on Sunday. I asked about Saturday and she said her Mum was coming up and she was going with her.

Anyway, I am upset that she seems to be consistently ditching me, late as she has chosen to do other things, that she has chosen to ditch our catch up because her Mum is staying over. It feels like she juat doesn't care sometimes.

She sees her Mum frequently, was there on the weekend and stayed over saturday night and will be seeing her all of next Saturday.

A lot of our plans she either has done or is doing with her Mum. It's hard to book things with her because she is constantly doing things with her Mum.

When I started dating my partner she had issues becaise I prioritised him a bit and I wasn't as available. Same when I got other friends (no longer friends with them for reasons unrelated to Bea) and spend a bunch of time with them.

Then same thing when I had my kiddo.

We talked about it many times and I took it on board and tried to make our friendship a bit more of a priority.

Now I feel like I have to fight for us to hang out.

Does anybody else feel there partner has become a great dad but terrible life partner?

For context we have a 7 month old and have been together for almost three years I only ask because I ask myself every single day what I should do whether that means breaking up or staying together like this man just every day pisses me off, pisses me off like he makes life a living hell sometimes and I try to see through the bad and look for the good, but I don’t know if I should be doing that you know?
Let me know how you handle seeing the good over the bad cause i know there is more good than bad but GOD DAMN he is annoying.

am i over reacting or ?

my bf just told me i need to go on walks because all i do is lay around and sleep... when i work full time still, manage to take the dog out when it's time and actively clean up around the house ?! i got upset bc it's like he's implying i don't do anything but sleep/ lay around but i only do on my days off... when all of it was a reminder to do his hair when he gets off work ? tb "you can go on a walk bc your body will be tired a lot some i'm not used, im playing around bc i used to burn 400+ calories a day".

Anyone working from home and raising a toddler?

I've been working full time from home since covid hit in 2020 and now have a 1 year old that I am raising. It's a challenge balancing work and being a mom/wife. But I struggle with the idea of putting my daughter in daycare. Anyone else in the same boat? If so, how are you coping? What are some tips that make things easier?