Am I a bad mom or is this normal….what can I do I need advice

Okay so I don’t know if this is my fault but my 17 month old son as much as I love him has been a little terrorist lately like not 100% of the time but enough for me to be a bit concerned like he’s been hitting throwing toys pulling hair screaming in my face and full blown tantrums and just plainly being mean acting like a bully and he used to listen when I would redirect him or tell him to stop but the defiance has been so real the past few days he will laugh in my face when I tell him no about something and then continue to do it I’m currently pregnant with my second and I’m due in mid May so getting up and chasing him has been a lot harder is anyone else experiencing this or has experienced this because I’m starting to feel like I’m a bad mother or that it’s my fault…

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Have not experienced this myself but have a minor in human development and this is a very typical age for toddlers to start to seek independence and want to test things as a way to seek that. It’s also an age where they don’t understand things like “don’t do xyz” yet, and their brains process the verb first, speaking in positives help. For example instead of saying don’t touch that say hands off please. When you say “don’t touch that” all they really comprehend is touch that and then they watch to gauge your reaction. Also give yourself grace, being a mom means constantly learning. This is normal behavior for this age. Also it’s his first time learning how to be a human his age and your first time learning how to parent him at this age because each kid is different. You’re doing better than you think, stay strong and hold that beautiful head high

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