Would you be annoyed?

Husband went out last night to a pub quiz (absolutely fine) however his lift home was with his friends new girlfriend who arrived totally drunk yet he still got in the car. He said it was awkward to refuse and get a taxi in front of others. He's 36 years old and I honestly thought he'd do better when he has a family at home. I'm so pissed off with him!

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Those who selected ‘not a big deal’ to literal DRINK DRIVERS is crazy to me and exactly part of the problem🫠 so so many people get killed by drunk drivers annually

She was driving drunk? I’d be fuming personally.

Read it first and thought you were just annoyed she was also in the car but not driving x

How “awkward” would it be if something happened because you didn’t want to offend a drunk person?
He’s an idiot.

By getting in the car he’s telling them it’s not a big deal, which it most definitely is!!! I’d be fuming and disappointed.

Awkward to refuse. What valuing your life is awkward?? I’d be pissed.

Anyone who drink drives or anyone who willing gets in a car with a drunk driver is a moron. No exceptions.

Awkward to refuse in front of friends? Bullshit. That’s okay then lads, they’ll feel awkward at his funeral looking at his family.

I don't give a shit how awkward it would be I'd outright say I'm not getting in a car with you if you've had even 1 drink. As someone who's mum died in a car accident I do not tolerate being around people who think it's ok to drive under the influence. Your husband and all involved are idiots. They are lucky they made it home without ending themselves or someone else

Well not only would I not get in the car. I would take her keys away because more than him being involved in a car crash, she can kill someone else on the road. Very foolish of him

I would have called the police on her there and then, the fuck? 🥴 Husband is an idiot and that’s being polite.

9% who say no big deal, let’s hope no one you ever know dies or suffers life changing injuries from a drunk driver.

I was just reading yesterday about a guy who got into a car with his friend who had had 6 pints. He only lived 5 mins away, his mate managed to crash and he died. Drink driver survived.

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Partner working all the time

Does anyone else have a husband that literally just works all the time I am honestly so drained I am literally so exhausted 😩 😭 I am just on my own all the time I feel like it would probably be better if I was just a single parent sometimes it’s just so draining.
I am currently receiving postnatal support as since giving birth to my second I have been struggling I had a really traumatic time it’s Easter weekend and I am just sitting at home not having the energy to do anything he literally works Monday - Saturday all the time till 5am-7pm.
I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar situation does it get better I just don’t know if I can carry on with this relationship I hardly see him and when I do it’s pretty much bed time.
The washing is piled high the house is a mess and I don’t have the energy to do anything other than to look after my two children.

2 weeks

I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.

Advise!!!

Ok so this Easter Dad is supposed to have 5 nights with our 2yo (court ordered) I’m fine with it. I think our child will struggle as they already struggle with a 2 night stay, but it’s ordered so it has to happen. There is no mention in the order that these are in addition to his regular contact it just says the child will stay with the father for 5 nights at Easter, there was a conversation in court about it only been 5 as it was to build up the nights gradually.

He is now trying to tag it to his weekend meaning he will have 6/7 nights. I don’t agree with this as like I say 2 nights are hard for the child’s it is so 5 is going to be hard and I don’t want to add to it.

My solicitor has said until he agrees I should not let him have her. I agree and I don’t want to give into him as he is very much all about control and abusing me not doing what is right for the child but I am also conscious that the child then misses out on a little holiday away with his family all for the sake of 1/2 nights. It seems so silly.

What’s your thoughts and advice??

If you’re not close to your mom - what went wrong?

Now that I have kids I want a strong and close relationship with my babies. Something I didn’t have with my mom and still don’t.

My mom and I see each other once or twice a year and that’s if I go there to visit her. We don’t talk on the phone unless she wants to call me to ask my younger sisters to go back home.

Never comes over to see my 3 kids never calls to check on them avoids me when she sees me out with my family.

When I was a teen we argued non stop. For years until I left the house. But before that I was always the good child always listened always did what she asked. I was the oldest so did everything for her went above and beyond. I bought up my younger sisters stayed up late nights fed them changed nappies bath them took them out on weekends. My sisters don’t remember her doing any of these things because she never did them. And now she hates them staying at my house she calls non stop.

She’s manipulative and twists things a lot. I have other siblings and she pits us against each other without us realising. Only now as an adult I’m picking up on things and how she manipulates around things.