2 weeks

Well first of all congratulations on your new apartment and new chapter in life. At first it’s going to be hard that the lies and other small things are going to bother you because you love this man. That was suppose to be your person. You spent everyday with that person with how ever many years BUT in order for you to move on, you’ll slowly have to stop worrying about his actions. What he does and says. If turning off his location is an option then maybe you should do it but if it’s a safety thing when his taking your guys babies and it’s something that brings comfort to you maybe just do the “share fire 24 hr”
I went thru a similar situation years ago and I know how you feel and what is going thru your head but over time I started to realize all the red flags. The many lies. And the bad behavior that was in front of my face and never once did I think it was a red flag.
This new chapter for you should be healing and finding yourself again.

As someone who used to move on quickly I’m going to tell you this. He is not doing well. The person he got with is also not okay. We seek sick minded people to help fill us up. I know from years of being untreated with a personality disorder which caused me to do dumb stuff and also discard of others. We seek vulnerable people. For example I got with a guy who had money. I took $30,000 from him and stringed him along for 6 months until one day I got bored and I got with another guy younger than him and more adventurous. I didn’t tell neither of the guys. They both had trauma. Whether it is childhood or relationship. We act kind because we are feeding… if that makes sense. We are feeding with the new supply until we get bored or we cry back to our old person. You need to get stronger before he tries to come back. This man might throw some indirect hints that he regrets it and blah blah blah. You also probably have trauma from this entire shizzz so treat yourself kindly. 💜

He got a secular parasite.

Being there for your babies thru this hard time as well. Life isn’t easy. And you did the right thing. Your respected yourself and your kids before letting him walk all over you.
Maybe if you can, get therapy to maybe help you or have somebody to talk to.

Don’t let other people actions control yours.
That’s something that is probably the hardest things to learn but sometimes you have to be selfish.

Wish of luck girly 🫶🏻🫂 you can do this.

Turn off the location tracker and move on with your life.
Remember the reasons you left and stick to your decision.

Men are excellent at love bombing, manipulation, gaslighting to try to get you back. I almost caved twice during my separation. Stay strong. You got this. (Coming from a person whose husband had inappropriate interactions via internet and made sexual and emotional advances towards minors. Leopards do not usually change their spots)

Congrats on the new place!

Civility is good - that’s a good tone to maintain moving forward - it’s better than friendly, even, especially with the feelings you’re having.

Keep things focused on logistics with the kids, and with any assets/finances that need discussing. Limit conversation to that, so there’s no room for lies, nor any discussion about who else he’s with, nor who you’re with.

That’s the cleanest path forward for both of you that keeps things civil.

Later on, after the dust settles, all the paperwork has been finalized, and everyone feels emotionally settled, perhaps things can be more casual and friendly, but that’s months or even years off.