Partner working all the time

Does anyone else have a husband that literally just works all the time I am honestly so drained I am literally so exhausted 😩 😭 I am just on my own all the time I feel like it would probably be better if I was just a single parent sometimes it’s just so draining.
I am currently receiving postnatal support as since giving birth to my second I have been struggling I had a really traumatic time it’s Easter weekend and I am just sitting at home not having the energy to do anything he literally works Monday - Saturday all the time till 5am-7pm.
I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar situation does it get better I just don’t know if I can carry on with this relationship I hardly see him and when I do it’s pretty much bed time.
The washing is piled high the house is a mess and I don’t have the energy to do anything other than to look after my two children.

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I told my partner i dont want him working any late shifts. Any time they start giving him 6-7pm finishes multiple times a week multiple weeks in a row i tell him to tell them its too much. So on average he finishes work around 4:30 most days then the odd 6-6:30 shift once a week. He always starts at 6am. So yeah.. it feels lonely, so i make it a big deal to watch a movie or play games (pc/xbox) together on his days off.

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My husband is out of the house for 12 hours a day with travel and work combined, which is our daughter's entire day, she wakes up not long after he leaves and goes to sleep before he's back.

I go to baby play sessions, swimming on the weekend and see my family and friends as much as I can but it can be quite isolating xx

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My husband works the strangest hours and I very rarely see him,sometimes he works 7 days a week..he'll go to work at 2pm and can come back at 5,6 or 7am so then he'll sleep the morning away get up and go back work..it's actually draining me atm because I feel like I'm always alone and very rarely get any help..and I have a medical condition that drains my iron so I'm constantly tired 😫

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Today was my husband's day off and he woke up around 6 having coffee in bed and was on his phone. . At 7 a.m my little boy woke up and asked to go pee then at 7:30 asked to eat. I then took him and went downstairs to make breakfast and he got so frustrated and started an argument that on his day off he can't relax. I must say he was not sleeping, he was just staring at his phone and now he ignores my child and me.

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I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.

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Ok so this Easter Dad is supposed to have 5 nights with our 2yo (court ordered) I’m fine with it. I think our child will struggle as they already struggle with a 2 night stay, but it’s ordered so it has to happen. There is no mention in the order that these are in addition to his regular contact it just says the child will stay with the father for 5 nights at Easter, there was a conversation in court about it only been 5 as it was to build up the nights gradually.

He is now trying to tag it to his weekend meaning he will have 6/7 nights. I don’t agree with this as like I say 2 nights are hard for the child’s it is so 5 is going to be hard and I don’t want to add to it.

My solicitor has said until he agrees I should not let him have her. I agree and I don’t want to give into him as he is very much all about control and abusing me not doing what is right for the child but I am also conscious that the child then misses out on a little holiday away with his family all for the sake of 1/2 nights. It seems so silly.

What’s your thoughts and advice??

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I have two kids and I’m just fed up, years of physical and mentally abuse and the constant cheating my kids deserve better. my kids can’t goto school yet and I don’t trust local daycares. how do I still work my part time with little to no family ?

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If you’re not close to your mom - what went wrong?

Now that I have kids I want a strong and close relationship with my babies. Something I didn’t have with my mom and still don’t.

My mom and I see each other once or twice a year and that’s if I go there to visit her. We don’t talk on the phone unless she wants to call me to ask my younger sisters to go back home.

Never comes over to see my 3 kids never calls to check on them avoids me when she sees me out with my family.

When I was a teen we argued non stop. For years until I left the house. But before that I was always the good child always listened always did what she asked. I was the oldest so did everything for her went above and beyond. I bought up my younger sisters stayed up late nights fed them changed nappies bath them took them out on weekends. My sisters don’t remember her doing any of these things because she never did them. And now she hates them staying at my house she calls non stop.

She’s manipulative and twists things a lot. I have other siblings and she pits us against each other without us realising. Only now as an adult I’m picking up on things and how she manipulates around things.

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Where did I go wrong??

I’ve tried to do everything the best I can for my son, we’ve breastfed, co slept, never ever left him to cry, responded calmly 95% of the time, and have created a very peaceful calm household… but he has awful separation anxiety, when I try say no to the boob he goes ape shit, pulling and smacking, his sleep is and always has been pretty bad. And I just see other parents whose babies sleep through the night independently, fall asleep on their own, are happy to fall asleep for grandparents etc.

And here I am, a Slave and a capture to my son…

What did I do wrong? I’ve tried my best 😞

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