How often do you sleep the night away from your kids?

Quarterly or couple days throughout the year….

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I was just on a work trip for 3 nights away from my kids but I only do that twice a year. I’d say average ten days out of the year Im away from my kids. My oldest often sleeps at my brother's house or other family though.

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Never

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I can’t think of any mum who sleeps away from their kids on a daily or weekly basis (unless military or something i guess)

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My daughter has started going to her grandparents almost every weekend. She's 14, so we let her make the decision when she wants to go or not. When she was younger, maybe once a month so my husband and I could go out to dinner or something.

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I have never spent a night without my little boy & he is nearly 3

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Sleepover at grandma's 1-2 times a month, since she was about 6 months. Also a couple of times we were away for a week for business. Now 15.5 months.

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Once a year

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1 night in 2.5yrs and that was a night in hospice with my mum. I still put her to bed and was back early morning

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Sleepover and grandma’s once and month.

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Never

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Not yet and he's 5 today.

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Only ever done it twice and she’s nearly 2!

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I’ve slept away from my daughter probably 4 times in 4 years. I don’t particularly like being that far away from her it makes me very uncomfortable 🫣

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Basically never. My daughter has had a sleep over at her grandparents 4 times and she’s 5 years old. Where would I be going if I was the one sleeping away? 🤔

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My oldest twice, first time she had jaundice, so only over night right after she was born and I wasn’t able to stay the night and the only other time was when I gave birth to her sister

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I’ve never spent the night away from my daughter. I’m pregnant with number 2 and expecting she’ll have to spend a night with my parents when I give birth and I’m dreading the thought of it

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Done it 3 or 4 times in his life, he's 3

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Hardley ever

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Never all of them.
My older 3 spent a week and a half with my BIL/SIL when when my youngest had his first surgery and they'll be spending some time with my sister in the coming months when my youngest has his high dose chemo cycle.

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I did once from my toddler while I was giving birth 😂

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I go back to work in 10 days from mat leave and will be away 2 nights a week apart from school holidays

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Sleepover at grandmas maybe 1/3 times a month x

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Neveeerrr

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My daughter has a sleepover with her grandparents every couple of months.

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Mil started babysitting at my sil 4x a week now and asked if she can have my kids every Friday night for a sleepover now. My mom also occasionally takes them for 2-3 days at a time

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My little one is nearly 4 and the first time was last month when I had to stay overnight with her sister in hospital.

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When my sisters take him overnight, maybe every ~2m. I do go out weekly but I come home at 12-1am I don’t “stay out” if he’s ever stayed out it’s because he wanted to sleep at my sisters’ where he has same and cousins to play with there

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Once a month

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Never and I personally couldn’t imagine it. I assume the first night I spend away will be when I’m in the hospital delivering/ recovering from having my second baby

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Never

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Never have. My daughter is 2

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Never.

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Max 3 days and she was supposed to stay a week. I could not sleep peacefully aby of those days

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Never

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Never

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Only time I’ve slept away from my toddler is when I went to give birth at hospital. She’s been with me every day of her life and on every holiday but we have zero village.

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