Having the same argument over and over with husband

I have our 4 month old daughter 90% of the time as EBF and husband works long hours. When she’s unhappy she needs to be carried or walked around or communicated with to calm her down otherwise she gets more and more intensely unhappy and it gets very hard for to calm her down. When my husband has her he’ll just continue looking at his phone or watching tv until she’s in a complete state. When I see this happening I will ask him to stand up with her or give her a toy etc and every time we argue that I e shouldn’t do that, he knows how to look after and it’s something I have to stop doing and need to trust his parenting. I believe her well-being is more important than either of our prides. If roles were reversed I would want him to say something. We both fundamentally believe the other person to be wrong so can’t get over this argument. Who is right?

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Firstly what your husband is doing is wrong, he's ignoring his daughters feelings and not acknowledging her needs. Seems like she needs more stimulation during play. And you already have her 90% of the time so maybe he should give the other 10%. My husband works very long hours he doesn't just do day shifts he does night shifts and always finds time to play with our son. This is my personal opinion. He needs to spend more time playing with your daughter and less time watching TV or playing on his phone 🤷‍♀️

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Hmm, I do think you need to stop micro managing him tbh. You don't NEED to stand up with your baby all the time, we went through this phase and I soon stopped it, as it's just tiring to be doing that for hours everyday! My baby soon learnt that I won't be doing that! I gave her toys at that age, or just lay her on the bean bag in front of us so she could see us. Now that she's 9 months she just sits and plays on the floor

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Have the same at home unfortunately. I am loosing it as it just seems that TV and phone is more important that our babies development and it makes me sad, i tried to bring it up nicely so many times but seems to go nowhere with that. I think they need to realise that their life changed and they cannot do everything the same as they did! I hope someone in comments will give us some solution. So far i feel like single mom 🥲

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so you let your baby scream on the floor for hours before she learns noone is coming?

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MEN.

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I smashed his phone and hid his PS4😈

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Staring at a screen and letting her cry isn't a form of parenting, if he thinks it is he needs to give his head a wobble. Ultimately no-one can give you a solution to this because HE has to want to do what's best for your child more than simply what he wants. My ex didn't bother with our little girl and had this attitude and I left him by the time she was 7 months old. This is their childhood, anyone who readily risks fucking it up for them is a goner 🤷🏻‍♀️

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