I think there’s something wrong with me

I know people say this a lot but I really think there’s something wrong with me, or I’m really not getting this motherhood thing right.
I have a 3 year old and a 6 month old and I would say 5/7 days a week I feel stressed, not all day but most of the day I feel rushed to get somewhere, Im snappy, the tiniest thing triggers me, and no one in the world hates me more than me😕 I hate this version of me, I don’t like it for anyone around me ESPECIALLY my kids. But a lot of our times is also cuddles, kisses, messing around and I’m always playing with them. I’ll put them before anyone else, their happiness is always the top of my list, I’ll drop everything just to do what makes them happy.

Im worried when I look at them are they thinking, is mummy going to snap? I’d hate for them to ever think that (it’s the way I was brought up!)
But every mum I talk to says they don’t feel like this, they love every bit of motherhood and yes it is pretty easy.
Am I the only one?! Do I need to see someone? If so what exactly for?!

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I'm a bit like this, so you aren't the only one & there is nothing wrong with you. Its juat called being overstimulated.

yes I feel VERY overstimulated x

If a mum tells you she loves every single part of motherhood and finds it easy, either she is lying or she has a live-in nanny or something doing most of the work 😅

I love being a mum more than I ever imagined possible, but my god is being a mum hard as hell!! And there's plenty of things I don't like about it, but the good far outweighs any of the bad.

Having said that, if you are feeling stressed most of the time, with less patience and less enjoyment in things I would speak to either your HV or your GP. You sound burnt out and may even be starting to get depressed. You won't necessarily need medication for it, but talking therapy might be a good place to start- with a 6mo old, you should get priority through NHS. In some areas you can also self refer to this (eg in my area it's called Time2Talk).

But more than anything please know there's nothing wrong with you- it's more common than you might think to feel this way 🩷

I also feel like this more often than not so you are not alone. Don’t be so hard on your self because that can send you crazy. Your doing your best 💞

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