This may be a long read but if you stuck to the end thank you so much
My birthday just passed, and I was actually asked what I did. And when I replied with nothing, they were shocked. I had received gifts, which I was and am still very grateful for. I then realized I haven't been happy for my birthday to come around since in my teens. Growing up we didn't do birthday parties so basically the joy and happiness of birthdays were getting to be non existent in a way. To me my birthday is just another day. But to me other people's birthdays are so big. If it's me making someone's fave meal and dessert or even a gift card for some dunkie. It's not like I want someone to make a big deal about my birthday. Idk. Either way, I'll continue to make big deals of others.
Also I'm posting incognito because I don't want anyone thinking they need to do anything for me. It's just a thought I had and has had me pondering for a moment.
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My husband thinks like that too. It’s just another day, another year getting older. He doesn’t make it a big deal out of it. His birthday was on Wednesday and I surprised him at work with a cake, flowers, a card and a gift with our two kids. Because to me, as his wife, I gotta make it/feel special to him regardless his opinion. He’s at the point in his life that all he ask for is love and affection from his loved ones.
I organise my own bdays. I look up a decent place for an afternoon tea or so where we can go do dinner and drinks and maybe some dancing (or karaoke) and I invite one month in advance, we have a girls night. As we get older and we have a friends group, we organise them ourselves but Bday girl is usually free for the night because they split the whole bill between themselves including bday girl so she’s payed for. I also make my own happy birthday to me post and everyone who wants to comment, can comment. Each one of my gfs organise their own bday dinner. If you wanna celebrate, celebrate. If not, don’t. If I know a friends’ bday is coming up and she’s not doing anything or not part of my group and doesn’t have much friends I’ll take her out for dinner separately. Happy birthday btw.
Ok now I'm crying. Idk. The last time I had a party was because I threw it. I was young and stupid and spent well over 1k. In 2008 mind you. Idk. But thanks yall.
I guess just most of my life growing up i wasn't made to feel special. Boyfriends, friends, family nothing. But I would make sure I would show up and show out for others. Idk ugh. I hate feelings. Lol again thanks yall
Growing up, I don’t ever recall ever having a birthday party. I now organize my own birthday but mainly do dinner with family and friends and maybe hit the bar afterwards.
That sounds nice.
Shoot!! If u was in my hometown I would of took you out myself. Happy belated. 🎉
You all are so great telling me stories and such!
Thank you also for wishing my birthday well. Just being in my 30s I don't have the drive to want to celebrate myself. I guess it was easy when growing up it wasn't made a big deal of either. Idk either way, im good and hopefully next year's birthday will feel different.
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