9m development concerns

Hey bit worried about my LO development
She is 9m old, doesn’t pull to stand no
Sofa surfing, no crawling yet, no real babbling (ma ma, da da etc)
She does make loads of other sounds and shrieks. Does sit up unaided , can stand with support for a few seconds before her knees buckle:
I do plenty of floor time and tummy time
She rolls around very confidently and rolls to grab toys and to move around
Does this sound normal?

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I did ring my HV and they said all babies develop in their own time etc but can’t help googling and think she’s a bit behind on these things …

Sounds 100% normal to me

You think? I can’t help but overthink she’s delayed 😫😫

My son just turned 9 months old. He doesn’t crawl or pull to stand. But he will yeet himself in the direction he wants to go in and he’s a chatty babes. No actualy mama or dada yet, but soon come! Don’t sweat it xx

Please don’t worry! They do everything at different times… your baby might clap or point or speak sooner than a baby that was crawling and climbing earlier.

My daughter now 3 and my 9 month old are both physically advanced but my daughter only had 5 words before she was 2. Now, her speech is amazing and so clear.

They all just develop at different rates but they get there. Don’t worry at all🩷

Crawling is a 7-10 month milestone, so she’s not behind on that. Pulling to stand is 9-12 months, the same as cruising, so she’s definitely not behind on that, either. Crawling isn’t actually even considered a milestone anymore because some babies will skip crawling altogether and just walk. She doesn’t sound behind to me :)

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply to me really reassured me xx

Hi there, any update on the babbling?

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