Do you feel like being a married women or man or just Boyfriend or girlfriend it’s inappropriate for you to go to a club with your friends?

I feel like it’s not inappropriate if you trust your spouse you should be able to let them have fun with there friends at a club my Husband feels like it’s not appropriate……🙄

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I wouldn't let my husband go because it doesn't matter how much I trust him if there is alcohol anything could happen.

He wouldn't let me go either.

I would let my husband go if it was a one-off like a bachelor party, but why would a married man want to go to a club? It’s where single people go to meet and mingle.

I feel too old for clubbing now but it’s not inappropriate 😂I would go out with my friends, dance and have fun - what’s inappropriate about that? By some people’s logic I should never have been to a club in my life since I’ve been with my husband since I was 17 🤔

It’s not inappropriate at all, it’s called socialising.

What has being in a relationship/married got to do with it? I mean unless the correlation is you would be in the vicinity of other men and alcohol = you would cheat on your spouse?

If that’s the case, then 1) your husband/partner is immature and insecure af and 2) if that’s what the worry is, you would cheat in ANY situation regardless. Going to a club would just mean a different environment, nothing more nothing less.

Also lol at “letting” someone do something. Are you their owner? That’s a fully grown adult who can make their own decisions and choices. If you can’t trust them to not get drunk in the mere presence of alcohol and cheat, you have much bigger problems in your life.

In a healthy adult relationship, there is nothing wrong with going out with your friends to ANY destination. Man or woman. It’s called trust and maturity. Trying to remove any temptation from your life won’t work. Ultimately there’ll come a day when you are mature enough to understand cheating is a choice.

Absolutely not.

If i didn’t trust him I wouldn’t have married him. Both of us have friends and regularly see them and colleagues at the pub. I don’t police him, I’m happy that he has friends and socialises and vice versa.

Bars and restaurants with your friends are definitely ok with me. Guys don’t dance in groups of guys together at clubs though lol

I personally don’t care, 🤷🏽‍♀️ he has enough self control and restraint to keep his hands to himself.

But I know he’s not the clubbing type anyway

I wouldn’t go without him no, just like I wouldn’t like it if he went without me, I’ve been with my man for 3 years and he hasn’t been out to a club with his friends once.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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