Would you rather your man come to you with his weird fetish or go to a sex worker that will fulfill it ?

I'm inculding. Defecating, urinating, walking on leash, humiliation outside, calling them punks not worthy to live (at their request) , beating with a belt, you dressing like an animal, cutting you, humiliation of you outside, kidnapping, rape etc. Yes, there are men in relationships with these fetishes they would never tell their wife or girlfriend but would tell a sex worker.

If he absolutely needed to act on some of these kinks, then I'd probably just break up because I couldn't do them, and I wouldn't want him going to a sex worker.

Kinks in general, I'd want him to come to me.

I’d want him to come to me and then together we could set limits. If there was something that was a limit for me but a necessity for him then I guess we’d have to talk about splitting up.

I'd want him to come to me. Even if I'm not into it we could probably figure out a compromise. I have a weird kink that's hard to top so nothing my partner or exes have ever shared with me has put me off. I always appreciate the honesty and feel closer to them after they share that kind of thing with me.

I really want to know whats arousing about crunching ice that is so interesting was it just ice or anything crunchy?

@Victoria~ no ice specifically dude was really orgasming off the sound

The ones you listed are too extreme. If he HAD to have that, we'd have to break up. Also, some of those are very concerning. For my safety, I think I'd need to leave...

Except the crunching ice one...that doesn't sound extreme 😂

Hell nawl😵‍💫😖 that’s crazy!

I think I’d send him to therapy honestly if he wanted to do those things. And if that didn’t work and he insisted on needing to do them, that would be the end of the relationship.

I selected ‘come to me’ until I read your later post. No way, break up. R*p**, cutting you ?? That is NOT ok.
It’s twisted to want to hurt someone like that and I could never get on board with that.

Op, have you had to perform this list? If so, I’m so sorry because that sounds truly horrific

i would rather he come to me but i would leave him if he had any of the extreme ones listed. i think kinks are super interesting & i’m not one to kink shame but i’m sorry no one is pooping on me ever.

Without kink shaming I’m going to let you know this relationship might crumble because I refuse to engage in certain play (like blood, poop, Pee, spiting, master/slave, rape). I play but I guess we all have a threshold and if our thresholds are just far to different I just….I can’t say it’s a relationship I want to be apart of.
I’m not someone that will happily allow my partner to seek out a professional sex worker to ensure certain needs are met.

Side note:
Go watch “you can't say that” on Netflix. There’s an awesome episode that has to do with BDSM where folks in that community answer peoples burning questions or silly assumptions about people that engage in BDSM.

Kinks in general? Yes I would want him to come to me. However if it was many of these I would have to break it off a lot of those you listed are way too extreme and I wouldn’t feel safe.

Coming from a kinky person that is on chill mode for the past 8 years, a man that actually loves you will not need to go to a sex worker for a kink because they won’t die if they don’t satisfy those wishes. It’s about character and a man that even considers a sex worker has 0. With that being said, I believe is very important for couples to discuss sex before committing to a marriage so they can find partners that can satisfy their wishes mutually.

Omg some of these sound just of abuse. I would want him to tell me but any of these it’s a hard no and we’d have to split.

this is kinda what i was wondering on another post about porn. everyone says "he doesn't need porn he has me" what if he wants to tie you up and youre not into that??????????

yall should visit fetlife. they have a laundry list of fetishes you've never even heard of. also lots of guys on there cheat on their women cause she's too "vanilla" for them....makes me wonder

Im into a lot of stuff and I've shared it with my husband. If he wasn't ok with performing something then I'd either not get that need fulfilled with him or at all depending on compromise. I'm also not monogamous though so 🤷. I think kinks are important to be talked about because not everyone is going to be ok performing every kink you have. Just remember ssc, and rack.

#1 and a fifth option : just go watch pOrN

Not a sex worker. Too high risk for catching STI’s. Come to me with your wild ideas, so I can decide whether to bounce on the relationship or tell his mother. Trust me I would report to his whole family, so they can see what they raised.

@Michelle that's the reason they go to a sex worker so they won't be shamed

I crunch ice in public, now I feel weird cause what if someone has that kink 😭 irrational fear, but still

very true, I didn’t even think of that 😂 I will continue to crunch my ice

@Ali someone i know who crunches ice said they learned it might be an iron deficiency. I'll have to ask if they figured it out, lol

Yes but Id want him to come to me but some of those are abit extreme for my taste ,like the cutting and rape is abit too far and you shouldn't have to deal with that at all .... everyone has there limits and its okay to stop if you feel really uncomfortable otherwise it just against your will, and that's not a sex worker thats a crime done to you ....the crushed ice one sounds fun but I cannot imagine doing that other stuff tho ....anal is properly the furthest I'd go