What do you consider “pushing 40”

Last summer I referred to myself as “pushing 40” when I was approaching my 38th bday. The person I was talking to said “that’s not pushing 40.”

Today, I referred to myself as “pushing 40” because my 39th bday is in the summer. Again, the person I was talking to (a different person this time) said “that’s not pushing 40.”

So, like, what is pushing 40 then?

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lol it is always going to depend on how old you are! I’m 26 so I’ll consider it “pushing 40” when I’m 36 😂 then after that it will keep going until I’m 40 but if I’m 39 and someone younger says it I’m going to say you have no idea 😂

I’m 36, so not 37 😂. I won’t be talking about 40 until I’m 39.

I am over 40 and I considered myself “pushing 40” at 37.

Agree with I would say pushing 40 would be from 37. Sounds like whoever you spoke to sounded insecure about aging or perhaps it was a harsh reminder to them that others might think they too were pushing 40 if they’re close in age to you?

I turned 34 in November 2024 and I remember I was going back and forth with a mom on this app. And she tried to take a jabt at me by saying “I was pushing 40” the woman was in her 20s and I laughed cuz I don’t understand what’s the big deal of pushing 40. She said that like it was supposed to be an insult or something. Bt I’ll be considering myself pushing 40 in abt 2 yrs when I’m 36/37. Right now I’d consider myself pushing 37 lol

at 26 do u think ur pushing 30?

I would say 37

My brain math
You’ve got decades 30-40
Broken up every 2.5 years
Mid 30s would be like 32.5 closer to 33 to 37.5 to 38
You’ve got “pushing 40s” is anything after 37.5 lmao
But you probably wouldn’t say it on your 37th birthday but it’s right around the corner!!
🤣
Early 30s and late 30s (do people say that? Idk) I’d think 30-34 and 35-39

I’m laughing at 34 being pushing 40, you are still very much a young woman! A lot of these youngins have a real fear of aging, hence why you see so many of them getting fillers and face lifts before they’re even 30!

Quite sad really, aging will always be a privilege not given to many.

Anyway, 40 isn’t even that old. Not especially when you think more and more people are living to their 90s and beyond. It’s not even halfway through life yet.

the first person to say it was older than me (50ish) and the one today was 34 going on 35.

I don’t think 40 is old. I’m looking forward to my 40s.

im telling u, I literally chuckled so hard cuz this mama thot she ate by age shaming me. And also it was my 1st age shame “insult” and I couldn’t believe it was coming from a young woman in her early 20s. lol bt then I remembered what it was like to be that age & yes a lot of them don’t want to age past 25. I don’t understand what is wrong abt being “old”. Aging is like the one thing everyone has in common cuz of time. So it’s certainly a blessing not a curse. It’s the inevitable. Very humbling. I agree with u, a privilege not given to many!

A day before 39. 😂🤣

I would say 38 as well

I think 39 because it's the age "pushing" against 40 🤷‍♀️

39 is pushing 40, no other age.

I'm 32 and say I'm in my early 30s I'll be pushing 40 when I'm 38 as it'll only be 2 years away that's how I view it anyways

definitely not, at 26 I’m not even thinking about 30 😂

Now I tell people I’m pushing 40, I am currently 37 will be 38 in July

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