Midwive demeanour

Please I hope that know one takes this as a dig at the profession. Like all jobs there's good and bad staff.

I've been to my 2nd midwife appointment this week and she was incredibly cold, borderline miserable and I left with raised anxiety and felt that this was going to be an interesting few months.

This is my second, my first time round midwives were mixed but the initial visits never this way.

I can't change as i live rurally with very low birth rate and so this is it.

I'm guessing how can i not let it affect me so much, or maybe is this just the way the profession is and the Call the Midwive days are long gone 😅😢

in our community

She’s here

First C-section was worth it all to meet her🩷

Baby breathing

Guys is this breathing normal for a newborn baby? I’m a new mom and have no idea what I’m doing. I’m an over thinker. idk if this breathing is normal or not. I have no idea who I would call to ask for advise. She also is a bit blue around the eyes and mouth

Early delivery

I had a routine midwife appointment on Monday at 3, and the midwife struggled to get a good heart beat for more than 10 or 15 seconds at a time, so I was told to go maternity triage so they could do it

Once I was there, babies heart beat was low and within 20min I was taken to delivery and told I needed an emergency c section but I’m only 25 weeks + 4 at the time. The babies heart rate was going from high to low for about 3 hours but after that he recovered and went back to a regular rhythm at normal speed. The main reason I didn’t go for the c section because they couldn’t tell me why he’s heart rate was going low, but they were incredibly pushy on having the C section, putting a cannula in and barking orders and making me sign consent forms while everything was happening at once.

I’ve spoken to a few other people about it and what their experience is and all of them have told me that the hospitals they were at recently did everything they could to keep baby inside them for a long as they could before delivering to give them the best chances.

Is the hospitals treatment of me normal or am I overreacting?

Baby is all ok now had a more in depth scan and apart from small tummy he’s great

Does anybody else feel they were cornered/pushed into a C-section

I was induced because of hypertension at 39 weeks. I wanted to labour. I wanted to do what my body was supposed to do. Once my waters were broken. I was told to move to increase the chances of dilating well. Except the little coil thing they attach to baby's head to monitor heartbeat got tugged out and the midwives could monitor him with me moving. So I couldn't move . Contractions were agony but then don't check cervical check me again untill 12 hrs later. I was at 3.5 cm. I was then bombarded by probably 4/5 people coming into the room and telling me. It's Friday evening you should probably have a C-section now cus if I get distressed and tired I'm t may be more difficult for a C-section later. It was then they told me I was bleeding a little. I sobbed. I didn't want a C-section I was so scared. I pleaded for one more hour to see if I'd dilate as much as they wanted me to for that period of time. But within that hour they basically stopped the drugs that were speeding up my labour... Obviously I didn't dilate as they wanted and had to agree to the C-section. I'd already had 2 failed epidurals so they had to do a spinal block. I just feel like I wasn't being informed about what was happening. That decision were being made about my labour for me. My baby was fine his heartbeat was fine. And I wasn't in a position or informed enough to advocate for myself. Not to mention after the shift change the midwife I had was horrible. She was cold and miserable. Like everything I said, did asked was annoying and an inconvenience.

I truly wish the midwives had gone to find someone to refit the spring thing on babies head so I could have moved about in those vital early hours of labour.

Yes I healed rather well and I'm glad my baby and I are alive and well. I just felt so cornered, belittled and not heard.

Induction

Nervous about induction. Those that were induced, any tips please?

Induction?

I went to triage today with reduced movements. Baby moved while on monitor but this is my second time with reduced movements in 3 weeks. Currently 35w6d. I’ve been referred for an emergency scan. I really want to go into labour naturally, are they going to want to induce me?