Can I be brutally honest?!

I really struggle with resentment. Like I could be having a good day trying to hold it all together (mother of 4 wild ones) and then my dear husband would just nag about something or make a snide remark and it’ll just tip me over!!! How do you stop the feelings of resentment and just annoyance. I really do love him but I feel resentment (deeper issues where I feel taken for granted) he does do his bit in regards to the kids but when it comes to me it’s no effort.

TMI but sometimes I can be so turned on and in the mood and just can’t wait to hold him and please him and be intimate and then with one wrong word he just pisses me off and kills my mood completely.

Anyone else feel this way? How do u snap out of the funk?! Because I’ve learnt to pick my battles and it’s not every little thing I want to have a huge discussion about all in the name of communication 🙄

Ugh! I don’t know 😫

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I really relate to the second bit about being in the mood (which is rare for me) and then being completely put off because of something he said. I know all my family say I get triggered very easily and I’m too sensitive but I feel like sometimes they do things knowing we’ll get triggered. Youre not alone feeling like this x

I have the same problem. I have been begging for affection for 3 years. I’ve been told countless times that he can’t or if I need that I need to find someone else. Yet he still expects to have sex. And honestly he says he won’t flirt or initiate it but gets angry when it doesn’t happen. We tried counseling and all that did was open my eyes to the fact that he’s no longer attracted to me and only cares about his needs. So last week I moved out.
You need to have an honest conversation and talk about your feelings. Mine knew how I felt and what I needed to continue but the effort wasn’t worth it to him. I hope yours is more respectful to your feelings ❤️

I totally agree!

You women are amazing thank you so much! I feel soo seen and validated you all get it!!! there is being sensitive and then there is being aware when someone is pushing your buttons on purpose. So I’m with u on that. I don’t know what joy they get from trying to trigger us? I’m so sorry you had to deal with that for 3 years! It resonates with me because I ask for the minimum sometimes just a hug and he will say the same thing like o should go find those lover boys that do all that good for you for putting urself first u deserve to feel loved and desired I wish you all the best!! I honestly couldn’t have summed it up any better!!! It really is disgusting and I’m not asking for a lot just be kind to me and naturally I’d want to give myself to u. He’s so mean and harsh with me and slowly he’s turning me very defensive I never used to be like this

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