So I have a Velcro baby & he cries whenever anyone else tries to hold him. We went to a family function the other day & my sister in law asked my husband if she could hold the baby & he said yes which is obviously fine but he started hysterically crying as soon as she held him which I expected. We’d only just arrived & she’s not seen him in months so I think he was really overwhelmed by all the new faces. Instead of giving him back to me she started walking off with him whilst he was screaming & out of the restaurant which annoyed me a bit. I walked after her and when I got outside I asked if I could take him as he’s a bit upset, she hesitated a bit and said ‘yeah if you like’ and didn’t look happy with me. I feel a bit bad now about it I know she was just trying to help but I really don’t like it when people walk off with him when he’s crying. Just wondering if I did the right thing or if I should have let her try for a bit. I know he wouldn’t have stopped crying though!
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This age is speak for separation issues and often this is much worse when baby can see mum. If someone (even my own mum) is having a hold I often try to turn away or sit out of baby eye-line to avoid crying.
Maybe she was just trying to take him away so he’d settle. It’s tough for us mummy’s when baby is crying as you know you can solve it so easily.
You didn’t do the wrong thing but you might want to think of some ways to help manage even if he is crying and taken away from you to help settle, as you don’t want to get to the point you’re anxious to see people because you know whats coming.

Don’t feel bad, your child needs you and if she doesn’t understand then sorry she’s not mature. Our kids cry can trigger us, dgaf seriously. People aren’t entitled if it gives kids misery