Toddler tantrums

My son who is 16 months had just started to have proper meltdowns. Recently we’ve been having maybe 5-10 meltdowns a day because he gets upset by something really minor. I know it’s just their developmental age but oh my goodness. I’ll take his jeans off to get him ready for bed and he just screams and flops around and arches his back, it is so hard and I feel so tired and am beginning to doubt myself.

Anyone else have ways of dealing with this or just words of comfort?

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I'm in the same boat. I try and distract or ignore, but sometimes I could just cry as if he'd just sit still, things would be so much faster and he wouldn't have to throw a tantrum! Last week it was because I wouldn't let him play in the fridge 🤦🏼‍♀️ this is by far the hardest stage so far 😂

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it’s such a lovely age because he’s talking and saying cute things and hugging and kissing etc but yeah it is so so so hard. He had a meltdown today because I wouldn’t let him eat the cheerios that he dropped in the mud🥲

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Its killing me! I rolled her sleeves back down after lunch and she had an absolute meltdown ☠️☠️

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I totally understand this, especially today! Several meltdowns about nappy changes, getting dressed, getting undressed... Not being allowed to climb onto the shelf under the coffee table 😅

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honestly same with nappy changes! I have to hold him down whilst I wipe his bum🤦🏻‍♀️he’s going to nursery tomorrow so I’m going to ask them for advice🤣

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My daughter is the same. Cant even ask her if she wants a drink, without her throwing herself on the floor first. Even changing her nappy is a nightmare! Definitely a stage i cant wait to get out of.. im a single mum and im exhausted! Counting down bedtime from the moment we wake up 😂

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I have little stones on my driveway and she tried to eat one yesterday afternoon. I told her no and took it off her and she screamed so loud, my neighbours came outside to see what was going on 🫣😂

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honestly same! He’s given me a cold/cough from nursery and I feel really under the weather so getting out with him and dealing with his meltdowns now are making me feel worse😂

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ugh when it’s in public🥲if I try put him in the buggy and he’s screaming I just want to hide

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Haha definitely feel you.. just remember that all mums go through it and put your chin up!

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It is tough right now ey? My little girl had a meltdown yesterday because she wanted to go to the park but didn’t want to go outside and wanted to eat a bit of popadom, but didn’t actually want the popadom in her mouth - exhausting!

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my son loves to be outside, at nursery they spend a lot of time outside which has made my son crazy for the outdoors. As soon as he comes down in the morning he’s screaming to go into the garden and I’m trying to explain that we have to put our outdoor clothes on since we’re in our pyjamas🤣

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My little girl normally loves being outside and we have to bribe her to come in, that’s why the park is always a winner when we need her to burn some energy. That’s why I was baffled yesterday when she didn’t want to go outside, but when I asked her if she wanted to go to the park or was a definite yes 🤦🏼‍♀️ I give up trying to understand why sometimes and just accept it 😂

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Today’s tantrum was because he walked over to me and handed me a book, and I started reading it to him 😂😂

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My daughters the same, usually I can cope but I’ve spent the last few days being screamed at, (I read the wrong page of the book she brought me, she wants food but doesn’t want to eat it, wants to be held but doesn’t want to be held) so it resulted in both of us sitting on the floor crying 😅 before I managed to persuade her we could hug and cry 🤣
I cannot wait for this stage to be over, although I don’t think the clocks changing have helped x

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omg my son sometimes doesn’t want to walk anywhere and he’s quite heavy for his age so I’ll hold him and he’ll moan and point until I carry him to the right place😂then I put him down and he arches his back and screams because I put him down

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Thought this was just my little one, today's tantrums have been doesn't want water but wants it, i closed the kitchen door and wouldn't let her play in the goat food, I wouldn't let her reek havoc in a charity shop, she wasn't allowed my ice coffee, she couldn't have my garlic bread( she had some of her own in her hand) and i made her wash her hands when she grabbed my dogs dinner, I honestly feel like crying about it, she's geong so grumpy with me but as soon as she sees daddy or granny, they are the best ever.. all she says is dada and it's making me feel like cr*p x how long does this last x

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aww I know it’s so tough and heartbreaking! My son goes to nursery a couple times a week but when he’s not at nursery I’m with him all day and my partner works. If my son has been pretty challenging I’ll say to my boyfriend “oh he’s been so upset and tiring” but as soon as he comes down our son is happy and all about dada🥲it can be sooo hard but I think they act out the most with the person they feel most comfortable with because they know even if they act like that then you’ll stay love them and stay with them you know? If you want to talk more about it you can message me as i know it can be super isolating xx

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also this is the normal age for these feelings to start so I suppose the more they learn to talk and communicate the less tantrums there will be or not as long as they can tell us what is wrong. Is your daughter speaking much or do you do baby signing?

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Thank you, this is quite reassuring x she can say a handful or two of words but usually points at what she wants, her favourite thing to say is that's dadda or is that dadda when she hears something x I know she understands what I'm saying so the words must be in her head x she would just happily play in the dog and goat food and water all day and if I dare step in the way of that I'm a monster x thank you xx

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don’t worry my son will normally point and whine at what he wants and I have to guess what he’s wanting😂I think right now it’s just hard as it’s new to us and new to them and we just have to find a way that makes both mum and baby happy :)

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I find it kind of cute..

They have noooo ability to manage these emotions and limited speech to communicate them.

They are basically in mental jail rn

I dont try and calm her i just let her do her thing until the next meltdown..

5 to 10 is a grand day over here!

Dress her.. meltdown. Ask her to move she shakes her head. Meltdown. Bathtime meltdown. Bathtime lets get out meltdown. Milks finished.. meltdown. Books finished.. meltdown. Out of bed... meltdown.

Cups she stacked and then pushed over had the cheek to fall?

Melt d o w n.

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She is inner me.

I WISH i could melt down all the time and still be cute as hell.

Unfortunately - i am an adult.

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To be fair, thinking of it that way is kinda cute/sad. I normally just try stand and hug him/rock him and talk about what u can see in the distance or if u can’t physically hold him i let him cry and just sit down next to him and keep asking if he wants a hug every now and then and then he’ll normally come to! I’ll probably be experiencing way more tantrums in the future🥲😂

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It issss cute!

I w do that too but if she isnt in the mood and i say do you wanna cuddle she will shake her head furl her brow and say

Noooooo mamaaaaa.

Which is bloody rude 😂😂

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