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Bless you ita honestly so hard. I would say be consistent with bedtime and keep responding to her In the night as it reassures her that she's safe

We’re only 3 months and have never slept well so I’m dreading this so bad :( can I ask what it’s like?! Again Velcro baby 🤦🏼‍♀️ x

really struggling because I know we would sleep better if we co slept but I can’t because it’s not safe with our dogs I’m exhausted 😴 I’m getting like 4 hours of sleep then I’m trying to make sure I’m doing everything like getting her out and tummy time and everything but it’s so hard when your just so tired 😪

she slept from 3 weeks old through the night until 2 months then she did one wake up at 2.30am and went straight back to sleep now it’s just 2.30am party time until 6 am and ngl it’s horrendous trying to keep everything dark and calm etc and she’s either wide awake or crying because she wants to be held

ah ok! My LO already doesn’t go back down properly after her first feed, if she goes back in her crib she’ll be awake an hour later so hopefully it won’t be much worse for us. We’re up 3 times atm and then she’ll spend the last few hours asleep on me 😩 I feel your pain. Hopefully it passes for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 sorry no advice. x

Hey! My daughter is 18 months now but the 0-4 month period was probably my hardest time - she had the sleep pattern of the 4 month regression her whole newborn life anyway - but not everybody goes through it, I know lots of mums who never experienced it!

If you end up experiencing it: I don’t know if you are already but introducing & keeping up a bedtime routine really helped us and her. It also affects their naps so try and get them to nap as long as they can i.e walks or car if you drive. If you have any support at all lean on them to get sleep where you can if cosleeping isn’t an option. And honestly just survive, don’t feel pressure to be mum of the year and do great things etc, just rest rest rest for now :)

@Emily I felt exactly the same I brought her into bed with me from 5am where I knew she would just feed and nap and I would nap before she woke up at 7 for the day. It's the toughest thing but you are doing what is best for you. It will get easier, so many things are happening in her brain and learning to link sleep cycles etc. Is it possible to put the dogs in a separate room for a few nights just so you get a bit more rest?x

Oh, I know how tough the 4-month sleep regression can be! And yes, I agree, "sleep when the baby sleeps" isn't always realistic! You're not alone in that struggle.

I wrote an article recently about my own experience with sleep regression and the tough decision we made to reach out to a sleep consultant. 

I thought it might offer some helpful insight or just be a comforting reminder that you're not alone in this phase! Here's the link to the article if you’re interested: https://vocal.media/families/we-survived-the-four-month-sleep-regression-our-experience-with-a-sleep-consultant-and-ferber

Hang in there, you’ve got this!

I can’t unfortunately cause they’ll moan & scratch the door and one dog can open doors 🫠. Just so up and down with everything atm sleep is just the main thing x

It’s hard but in the trenches of it just remember that it does end! I know that’s not useful, a bit like saying ‘sleep when the baby sleeps’ (I also HATE this saying!) I promise you there’s light on the other side - the thing that helped me was eventually accepting that this is how it is for now and trying to be consistent with wake windows during the day and capping their daytime naps at 2 hours so that they’re sufficiently tired when they go to bed. We also starting bathing every night at this stage, not always with soap to give their skin a bit of a rest, but it became part of the bedtime routine. Finally, if you haven’t already got them get some blackout blinds from Amazon, this will also help them to get back to sleep if they wake up - this bloody daylight saving is wreaking havoc on 7pm/8pm bedtimes!! You got this my love, it will NOT be like this forever xxx