Will I have social services involved???💔

No- having support for your mental health does not mean social services automatically get involved. They’ll get involved if you’re struggling to care for them, or they’re at risk.
And even if they are involved, there’s so much taboo around them, but work with them and use any support and advice, and they’ll close.
If you are noticing a problem, and think you need help, then that should be the priority. Please don’t let the anxiety over social services stop you from reaching out for support for your mental health and wellbeing.

haven’t got experience in this to give any advice really but I just wanted to say I think this shows you are clearly a very considerate responsible parent looking to get some guidance and help from your GP.

We are all so different and needing help or medication/treatment doesn’t make you a bad parent or person or will be villainised in any way! be kind to yourself, Good luck with everything ❤️

Psychiatrist here 👋 no they will not automatically refer you to social services, although obviously I can't say for definite as I dont know your full circumstances. If it is felt necessary, they should discuss this with you first, and it's usually because the additional support can be helpful- not because anyone wants to take your child off you! Referral is made (as Chloe said) if there is risk to children.

On BPD- is this a pattern since you were a teenager/young adult? Is it with everyone/every setting? Or are we talking a recent change with just your husband?

There is not a medication treatment for BPD. Specific talking therapies have been shown to be helpful with managing emotion dysregulation and associated difficulties. However, people with BPD often have other mental health problems too, which do benefit from medication, so a full assessment by a mental health practitioner is usually helpful.

it’s every time I’m in a relationship since a young age I just flip out if something I don’t like happens or something don’t go how it was meant to and just other little things I split and kick off to the smallest of things

I rang the doctors as I was suffering really bad with my moods. They diagnosed me with severe depression and anxiety. They did have to refer me to social services because I have my daughter, but they were fine. They actually said I did the right thing by getting in touch with the doctors to get help rather then struggle on my own with everything.
I also had the health visitor come slightly earlier than needed for her 2 year check, but again she was lovely and I felt no judgement at all.
If you need help, seek help. It doesn't make you a bad person or a bad mum 💖 good luck x

What will they actually do tho if I call them

You can message me if you want and I'll talk you through what happened to me x

i have a personality disorder and had expressed concerns with my midwife just to be fully open and honest, knowing this will mean myself, baby and my partner will get the best care if needed. if they don’t know, they can’t help.
midwife made referrals to MASH (a multi agency team) and IPPS who provide mental health support throughout pregnancy and early years.
i was a little scared but every professional i have spoken to have been really kind and put me at ease. they are there for support not for judgement. if nothing concerns them they’ll leave you alone and only really interested when safety is at risk.
wishing you all the best on the rest of your journey x