Advice needed!

I’m genuinely getting stressed about this. My husband’s family have booked a holiday let 3 hours from our home for the week and my husband has said we’ll go for a long weekend. I’m 33 weeks pregnant and very nervous about being that far away from home as they are really not supportive of my pregnancy (I’ve barely had contact with them asking how I am or how bump is over the duration) they’ll have planned alot of activities (mainly around drinking and hot tub, both of which I can’t do) and I just know I’m not going to have a good time or feel safe if anything happens. I’m trying to use work as an excuse to my husband and that I need to be back by Tuesday but he’s saying I knew I had to take Friday, Monday and Tuesday off. (I didn’t know this and only planned a half day Friday so we can travel and Monday) he’s literally ignoring me now. I haven’t got the best relationship with my in laws (mainly wedding related, his mum wanted to plan our day and because I kept choosing my ideas over hers (the nerve of a bride!) she’s not liked me since, she even wanted to come on our honeymoon!! Yep. She didn’t come but did ask.) Am I being unreasonable by saying I don’t want to go at all now?? Stressed pregnant lady 😭

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First of all, please don't stress! It's not worth it. Second, I also have a rubbish relationship with my mother in law and wouldn't want to be stuck with her if anything happened or if I were to go into labour early etc, it's completely your decision! If you do go, I'd just suggest having your hospital bag with you and make sure you know where the local hospital is just incase, and definitely don't let them stress you out! Xx

I think you’re well within your rights and I’d be tempted to say a half truth. You’re exhausted from pregnancy and would just like to spend the time you have before baby gets here resting and nesting.

My advice with things like this is always: are the consequences of sticking with your preferences worth it.

For example, do you feel strongly enough about not wanting to go, to deal with the (unfair) repercussions of their attitude towards you for refusing to go.

I’d definitely play on the fact that 3 hours in a car is incredibly uncomfortable as well.

Wishing you all the best xx

I think you should protect yourself and your wellbeing. It doesn't sound like they're thinking about you and how you feel and it's good to have boundaries now, you'll need them even more when the baby arrives. Your husband should understand, you're not asking him not to go, just not to put you in that situation. And if the worst that they'll do is talk behind your back, it's likely that they're doing that already, so good riddance to them.

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