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Is anyone a full time worker?
I do Monday to Friday 8.30-5
I still haven't put a form in for my daughter to attend school nursery in September- i really don't know how we are going to navigate it.

We are entitled to 30 hours from sept as she will be 3. We already struggle mid week when her dad starts work at 6am and me 8am to get her looked after.

Has anyone any experience of how I can navigate it ? 🫣

I was thinking just putting her in afternoons but the same problem arises of mornings

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Both my husband and I work full time and we make it work but to be fair both our jobs are fairly flexible and I don't normally start until 8:45.

Have a look around for nurseries that open slightly earlier - ours opens at 8am but I know there are others that open at 7 or 7:30.

What's your childcare like at the moment? Is your daughter cared for by relatives? Is she at a childminder?

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I’m also worried about this currently he is in full time nursery so we can drop him off at 7:30 and pick him up at 5:30 (or till 6 if needed) but if I move him to a school for half a day I need to do the wrap around and the hours are not at long. Then I’m also worried about what happens at school holidays? The school and nursery he goes to are far apart so the nursery don’t do the drop off like they would for more local schools. As a result I’m going to probably leave him in the nursery until his full time school and worry about it then. You can still claim the 30 hours at ours

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@Paulina my work can be flexible i can do 9-5.30 however it's a 20 minute travel journey, even before factoring traffic then around 7 minutes to get to my department from the car park 🫣

She's already in a private nursery Thursday and Friday 8.30-4 her dad takes her on a Friday because he has a slighter later start at work- every other Thursday my sister gets off work, most of the time anyway. The other Thursday I either have to call a friend or go to work late.
The rest of the week and after nursery she's with relatives.

The school nursery time is 8.40am

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Can you not just leave her at her private nursery? We aren’t swapping to school nursery for this very reason, the days and hours offered wouldn’t work for us so we are keeping him at his private nursery and upping him to 3 days x

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It's a possibility I'm also exploring x

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Have you checked if the school does breakfast and after school club? Ours will be 7:30am then nursery starts at 8:30am. After school
Club is until 5:30-6pm. I don’t need to use it when she starts in September but it was an option for us. Sorry if I’ve missed a comment about this x

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Me and my husband work full time and currently our little goes to nursery three days a week. She will start full time preschool nursery from September, 8.45 to 3.30. Luckily the nursery is less than 15mins far away from our place, plus I will be working mainly from home, only go to office 1-2 times a week, I will not take lunch and I will pick up little one at 3.30 and then continue do eork after I get back home if needed. My company is quite flexible around this. Also, when I go to office, my husband will stay home to do the drop off and pick up and when we are super busy i.e., when we both need to be in the office same day then we will also book/pay for breakfast clubs or after school clubs. We think this will still be cheaper than what we are paying now at private nursery (about 750£). I would suggest speak to you line manager and see if you can perhaps skip lunch time do work instead and more wfh days. Good luck, its not easy and I dont know how people make it.

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I work Mon-Thurs in a school. I leave home at 7.15 and home by 5.15 our son has attended nursery for one full day since December the other days he is cared for by grandparents. We did want him to start in September however it's a sort after nursery (extension to another they already had) to guarantee a space we decided to put him in one day now and hope he can do more as of September. If they have the space then we plan to put him in three full days and then be with grandparents for the Thursday.

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