My child doesn't say mummy

My LG is 21 mths and she can say quite a few words and has done for a long time she says dada all the time to get her dad's attention and when sees a picture 9f his says dada but will absolutely not say mummy or anything similar. Should I be worried.

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I wouldn't exactly be worried she just might be a daddy's girl! My daughter was similar she called me and my bf mama and Papa but refused to call her dad dada until a few months ago after she turned 2

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@Kaylee she doesn't call me anything that's the worst part.

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My son is the same way with his dad 🥲 says mama all the time though! I constantly refer to myself in the rhird person as "mama" though and I think that could be why.

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Sometimes they don’t say it because we are just there always but if she has stopped progressing with her language it would be worth seeing a doctor. She may need a hearing test or further investigations.

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My little boy was the same he’s 22 months now and literally just started calling me mummy this week it was amazing to finally hear him say it!

I wouldn’t be worried I spoke to my health visitor at the 18 month check up about it as my little boy was so chatty I never understood why he wouldn’t say it she said if he said other M words it’s not an issue as he knows how.

I just put it down to him never needing to say it as I was the one who was m there and available well more so than his dad who works longer hours he only started saying mummy last week I think because I was solo parenting 3 days so I he realised I was a little busier maybe and he has to ask for my attention instead the odd occasion

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@Claire her hearing is perfectly normal. Ive raised a few concerns with my health visitor but they keep saying wait for her 27mth review to raise any concerns

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that’s great you already know her hearing is perfect.
I believe they should have at least 50 words and be able to join 2 words to make a short sentence by this age. From experience if you think there is something wrong then I wouldn’t except their response to wait until 27mth. Early intervention of any speech delay is vital.
Remember you are her mum and advocate. You know her better than anyone else. It might be like the other mums are saying too that you are there more so there is no need to say your name but trust your gut on what to do.

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