Does anyone else CRINGE at the thought of having sex with their husband?

Dont get me wrong, the sex is great. He’s an attractive guy but for whatever reason when he brings up sex, or I think about initiating it, I get the ick. I’m not sure if it’s from the lack of emotional intimacy, or not feeling well cared for? Has anyone experienced this and had any success fixing it?

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Yes. I have for a few years now and recently I haven't even been enjoying the sex when we do. He's very attractive but we haven't been getting along for a while now. It's not like I even want to have sex with someone else either so idk if its me or our relationship.

Yes… but I also am a late in life lesbian now… soooo… 🤷🏻

Yes you need to connect emotionally more to fix this. And pray God changes him in Jesus name

I think it’s the lack of emotional support and connection. Intimacy is more emotional than sexual. I hate the idea of having sex with my husband because I have a lot of anger towards him because I wasn’t treated properly postpartum. I don’t think I’ll be able to have sex with him until we get some marriage counseling and sort out these issues

I’ve had that feeling. Definitely more now since being pregnant with #2. But I have acknowledged that it’s more emotional and not getting that support. It’s been a month of him actively trying to work on it. That it’s not as strong as it was. When it started.

so happy for you that your partner is trying to work on the situation 🤍 I hope it gets better for you soon

Well that’s not good at all

Yeah I get that. He’s amazing dad and husband but whenever he tries to start something I’m just like, I’m not in the mood to do anything, you’re basically kissing a rock rn 😅

I think you're guess about the lack of emotional intimacy would be the cause

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Going through this right now. Non-sexual touch and little kisses are fine as long as I'm not feeling touched out by having our baby cling to me all day. But any sexual touch, comment, or joke makes my skin crawl. I've started drinking to get myself in the mood because I don't want him to feel totally neglected, but it's a 50/50 if that'll even work

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️