My Neighbor screams at his 2yo daughter really bad i can hear him yelling and her crying it breaks my heart. Idk if I should do something or stay out of it

It’s not nice but I do think some parents are just naturally “shouty.” Doesn’t mean they’re not loved or looked after. I’d be wary of doing anything unless it’s obvious there’s some kind of abuse going on.

If you know them well enough to offer support, you can start with that - go up to them and ask if they need help. Otherwise, if it's genuinely abusive type yelling and not just "shouty", you can try reporting to CPS with concerns but tbh emotional abuse is so low priority I'd be shocked if anything actually came from it.

As someone from an abusive home however, all I ever wanted was for someone to notice and try to help or at least just offer kindness. Now that I'm older that's probably what I'd try to do - just make a point of being friendly and warm and kind anytime I interacted with them especially the children. Tell them kind things, take interest in the things they say, congratulate them for whatever achievements they spontaneously share etc. Just try to be a safe person if all they know is terrifying. It can mean a lot to a kid.

Definitely report it.

report what exactly, you would risk a child being taken because the parent shouts ?
Not saying it’s right but what exactly are you reporting

I don't think shouting leads to a child being removed, so if your gut is telling you there's something wrong, report it. The thing is you'll never know if it helped or not, even if shouting stops.

Parents shouting does not lead to child being removed.
If able to offer support or alternatively you can report it to your local MASH or social services.

Is the mum around? Can you talk to her? I would go when this happened to ask him if everything is ok, offer support, and see how I feel about the situation. If he seems just tired and overwhelmed or looks scary and angry. I would then see to report him if he seems he could hurt her.
But also, know that he could rightfully tell you to mind your business without necessarily be an abusive dad

I think it really depends on what’s being said and things to determine whether it needs a serious intervention. My boyfriend is so loud (he has ADHD which makes it worse) and whether he’s playing with her and happy he can tend to “shout” or if she’s tipped water all over the carpet and he’s telling her we don’t do that he can “shout”

report that a child is being verbally abused. Then the authorities can investigate and check whether further abuse is happening and what exactly the situation is. If you’re not saying it’s right than what are you saying? A defenceless child should put up with being berated so loud and so often that a neighbour can hear it and is alarmed??

I didn’t read that the child was being verbally abused? He could have been telling her to do or not do something but just while shouting. Which again isn’t right but do you know what happens to kids when they get taken?
Putting them in the system isn’t any better.
A better approach would be to speak to the dad and possibly getting him parenting classes.

You are saying “screaming” in your post but the comments are saying “shouting” and personally, I believe they are 2 completely different things.

I grew up in a house where if you didn’t raise your voice then ain’t nobody hearing you so we all naturally shout even when we are laughing/ joking with each other.
My husband grew up the opposite so he says I shout when I talk to him but to me I’m just talking.

ty for being this person 🫶🫶🥹

okay then comment that? What’s the reason for replying to me specifically. We disagree and that’s okay.

I also grew up in a screaming/shouting house which is maybe why this has touched a nerve. In our case it was definitely abuse, all sorts of abuse. Sometimes these things are just overwhelmed parents saying to do something for the 20th time. And sometimes these things are signs of abuse.

I did!
You were the first/only person at the time who said report it so I asked you why.
Don’t take it personally.
I should say report it 100% if they said it was abuse.

the child won’t be taken if it is “just shouting”. If there is no further abuse found by professionals then there is no harm done. However being screamed at daily is emotional abuse and I would 100% report it. As it can be an indicator that parents are struggling and need support with their parenting techniques

my apologies, I know thats how peanut works and if you write a comment someone might reply and disagree or open a discussion. I’m just having a tough day, sorry.

@Ema I grew up in a loud household too, but even then there was a difference between the normal loud and the abusive screaming loud. I've experienced both and to me it's not possible to mistake one for the other.

As someone who grew up with a dad who was like this I wish someone had stepped in and helped me.

Forsure take some action so you have relief that you did the best you can.

I'd report it personally, and my partner has done exactly this on a neighbour previously for shouting really badly at her son! It's NOT OK, and is actually very damaging!

Call cps

I think unless the shouting is absolutely awful and abusive I would just stay out of it. If you know the family well enough perhaps offer some support and be extra nice to the child so they have someone positive in their life x

I think if it's bothering you enough to put a post on here, you probably know it's not right...you can make an anonymous call and the professionals can make a judgement. You have done your part then. X