At what age did you take down the baby gates?

I have a 2 and a 3 year old. Both a pretty carful with the steps. When did you take the gates down?

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Way past 3 for me - my 3 year old is good with the steps as well but I always worry about him maybe having just woken up and being groggy and slipping and falling. Not worth the risk for me. I mean I also have a newborn so it won’t be anytime soon for multiple reasons!

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I would leave the gate that’s in his room. But the other ones I want to take down

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Both my nearly 3 and nearly 2 year old are confident on the stairs. It’s my dogs not being allowed upstairs that will keep my baby gates in place indefinitely! I still have the upstairs gate on for the kids and have no intention of moving it any time soon. They’ve become part of the decor🤣

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Tbh never used them. I just keep an eye on them and they just learn how to get up and down the stairs

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Safely I mean. And generally my toddler is super clingy and pretty much stays with me at home…never been much of an issue.

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Mine would be down if it weren’t for the young baby who wants the cat food.

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Indefinitely for me just because the kitty litter box is on the landing so gotta keep my dog and babies away

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There’s no way I’d take down the baby gate until age 5 or older.

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My 5 year old is good with stairs, but I worry about my 3 year old, so I keep it up sometimes for her safety. Luckily, we won’t have steps at our new house, but I’m using it to keep them out of the kitchen/living room unsupervised (like if they happen to wake up before I do, etc).

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1 year 😂😅

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We moved into a new house when she was just shy of 2 and didn't put any up.

When she wakes in the night or morning she comes straight to our room to find us so doesn't go down the stairs until she's woken up a bit.

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Second time round we didn’t have them due to it being a rental but closed the living room door. She would also come into ours in the middle of the night.

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We live in a bungalow, so we don't need one for stairs, but I have one up between our lounge & kitchen to stop my little boy from going into the kitchen. He is nearly 3 now, though, so I don't know when to take it down as he likes to come in & help me with dinner.

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We never used them, but still bought them 😄 We have doors everywhere before the stairs, and it was fine, she couldn't open them. But by 1-2 years, she just started to be carefully around the stairs, she told us and we helped her get down or up on them.

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My one broke after 16 months I didn't replace it since

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Never had any

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I would say be as cautious as possible. As soon as you think they’re ready they’ll prove you wrong by trying to jump down the whole flight of stairs

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I only have a gate on her bedroom just because I dont want her wandering around In the night

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I have think it depends on the individual baby. If you feel it’s safe take it down.

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Never had them for steps as we have a one level house; but I had one around the woodstove, one separating the kitchen from the living room, and one separating the kitchen and laundry room. The woodstove one came down when my daughter was a year and a half... she knows it's hot, and to not play around it. The other two have stayed up... but now we use them to keep the dogs out of certain areas, lol.

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