Antenatal Depression

I feel scared to admit that I’m feeling really low during my second pregnancy - I didn’t have this at all during my first pregnancy. Even though my first was unplanned and this one was definitely planned.

So it’s really taken me by surprise. I’m struggling with not feeling great (in my second trimester), coupled with just not feeling a particular bond with my pregnancy - I’m just feeling quite low. I feel sad that people around me are so much more excited than I am.

I’m worried that if I talk to my midwife about the way I’m feeling that I’ll be on their radar as thinking I’m not coping when baby is here?

I have zero concerns about my ability to care for the baby and I know I will be the best mum I can be.

Does anyone have any experience of this who can provide some much needed advice?

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Every pregnancy and birth is different so maybe this time something is off balance

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It's very common for pregnancy hormones to affect your mental health. Midwives are there to support you and they really aren't looking for reasons to persecute you or take your baby away or anything, although I understand it can still be worrying.

You have a much better chance of being a better parent (to both children) if you're feeling more like yourself, so it's definitely worth speaking to someone (eg midwife or GP) about it

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