Sleep regression

You’ve got this mama, it will be so tough right now but it won’t last forever. You will get sleep again and he will sleep longer soon. He wants his mam and that’s so special that you are who this tiny person wants. I know it’s so so hard and you might not want him to want you but you’ve got this, you’re doing an incredible job xxx

thank you 🤍 I keep trying to tell myself this but it feels like it’s never ending at this point but I appreciate your kind words xx

It will seem like that now but one day you’ll look back at this hardship as just a memory, stay strong and give yourself a treat tomorrow xx

Im there with you, and it's rough!
Can your partner sleep in another room? That's how we're managing.
Once I give up with the crib each night, baby is in our bed.
Some of the wake-ups I slide her over, feed lying down and slide her back to the other side. It seems to keep her sleepy and shorten the wakes.
Then, once she's had her 5am feed, my well-rested husband takes her so I can have 90mins sleep before her next nap x

Right here with you ♥️ we’re 3 weeks in and tonight I feel a little broken.

We’re on wake up number 4 of the night at 02:50. He lasted 1.5hrs in his crib at start of night and since 23.00 has been in my arms or led next to me, not ideal but the only way we get any sleep (and it’s still only around 1.5hrs) I pray for us all that this ends soon, but know you’re not alone. Xxx

I'd say keep persevering with the bottle, but try earlier in the night/ day first when he is calm. Hang in there x

sadly that’s not an option as we don’t have the space. I have done some lay down feedings but I tend to fall asleep doing that, so I haven’t done many for that reason x
it’s so tough isn’t it. It just really got the better of me last night. I eventually gave in and had him on me after he fed at 5am x
we’ve only tried giving him bottles in the day when he’s nice and relaxed and in between feeds where he’d be hungry but not stressed. We’ve tried 3 different bottle brands, defrosted milk, freshly pumped milk but he just doesn’t seem to take to it x

Are you using a 0 teat? Maybe swap between bottle and breast when they are hungry

It’s so tough Kate, we’ve been in the trenches of this for a little while now (since 14 weeks) and I’ve had several big meltdowns!! I don’t have any advice really - I suppose maybe a small comfort to know we’re not alone!! X

Hope you are ok lovely! We are also in the same boat. It’s so tough. I’ve had a couple of breakdowns this week due to lack of sleep. Sadly no advice but just wanted to message to say you aren’t alone. Here if you need to message overnight! X

I’m feeling this tonight ❤️ it’s also been a month for us and she won’t go down for more than 20 mins in her next to me. I end up giving up at about 1:30am and just holding her all night but it’s so hard to stay awake. I’ve been watching things on my iPad. It’s so tough! My other half takes over in the mornings for a few hours so I’m getting about 3 hours sleep a night but I don’t know how much longer we can sustain this 🥲 here’s hoping they suddenly sleep in their cribs again very soon!

I’m with you. My boy will only sleep in my arms as of the early hours (usually around 1am) and I often fall asleep with him there. The nights are sooo long. I hope the end is in sight for us all. Sending love ❤️

at least we know we’re not alone 🥺 I wake up in such a panic if I accidentally drift off, it scares me so much but the sleep deprivation is so real! x

absolutely not alone! If I’m honest sometimes I wake up and realise I’ve been asleep an hour. It’s scary!!

I’ve definitely done that too 😩 really tried hard the last few nights to make sure I’m watching something so I’m more alert but I think that’s why the tiredness is really hitting now!

yes size 0, great tip thank you. I will give that a go tomorrow!

it’s honestly identical to my boy. He just can’t stay in his next to me for long at all! I’ve fallen asleep a few times with him on me, I’ve even drifted off breastfeeding whilst sitting up 😩
We’ve had to come and stay in a hotel tonight as I have a hospital appointment in London first thing and I am dreading tonight as we have minimal home comforts to help ease it all

thank you, same here 🫶🏻

it can’t get much worse so you never know! I’m awake after the first stint which is usually the best - exactly 30 minutes tonight 🥲 better than last nights 19 minutes I suppose 💀 xx

oh no 😭 maybe the 11 minute increase is the beginning of the improvement but she’s drip feeding it to you 🤣 my boy hasn’t even gone down yet, but he slept for almost 3 hours in the car up!x

the next stint was 9 minutes 💀 don’t think there’s any fear of improvement hahaha! I’m trying a different tactic this out down and have got her lying on the mattress, will try and slide her into the next to me and see if that makes any difference… I doubt it!

You’ll have to keep me updated how your little one does jn the hotel!! x

he’s just done 45 mins in the bassinet before waking for a feed! Can’t believe it as I wasn’t expecting him to go down at all, as he seems to not enjoy his bassinet as much anymore.
I even got cocky and started to fall asleep, but he brought me back down to earth and didn’t allow that to happen 😂x

we actually got nearly 3 hrs in his crib tonight but he’s made up for that since 12 and basically hasn’t slept and hasn’t let me put him down!!! I’ve never wanted the nights to be over like I do right now!

I ended up putting my little one on the mattress with me so if I dozed it wasn’t as bad but she kept waking up anyway so been holding her since 1:30 again!

I’ve had Luca in with me since half 12, as there’s a spare bed in the hotel room so my other half has gone into it, but it’s such an alien environment I can’t relax enough to sleep!

My boy has been relentless since midnight. Got one stretch of 1hr but other than that it’s been 20-40 mins in my arms or led next to me in bed. I’m going slightly crazy and am not sure how I’m going to cope knowing there’s no end in sight 🫠

it’s so tough isn’t it. Luca has been ‘feeding’ for well over an hour now but it’s the only thing calming him. Usually he’ll have a quick feed and then drop off on me.
I really underestimated just how bad this stage would be when I heard about the regression 😩

Jude’s been feeding pretty much non stop and then throwing himself around the rest of the time, just so unsettled!
Ohh me too, no one warned me how bad this could really be 😔 I’m glad I’m not alone as to start with I thought there was something wrong because everyone else is posting complaining about short naps or 3hrly wake ups which is take any day!

She won’t even go down tonight 💀 just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse

I haven’t even tried yet! Luca wouldn’t go down until late yesterday either. Is she due another feed at all?

no she’s been on the boob constantly and we gave her a bottle of expressed milk before bed! And she had a 3.5 hour wake window! She’s fast asleep on me but every time I put her down she starts crying 😭

I can’t believe how much our little ones are feeding during this regression too! I got desperate and tried giving him a ready made formula yesterday to see if he’d go longer in the night, he pulled the most disgusted face and rejected it 😩
I’ve just managed to get him down but I have to do a really slow bum to head lay down, if that makes sense and leave my hand heavy on his chest so he doesn’t startle back awake. I’m sure he will wake up soon wanting another feed

I never did get her down 😩 ended up just putting her next to me on our mattress and feeding her lying down but now I’m back sat up because my back started hurting and she was getting frustrated cos she wasn’t able to feed properly! I hope Luca managed a decent stretch 🤞🏼

he lasted about 30 mins, then actively fed for almost an hour 🥲 he went back in for 30 mins and has just cried to come out.
I think I’m giving up for the night, I’m soo tired my eyes are going when feeding him, so it’s just too dangerous to keep trying to tired myself awake to settle him back off etc. admitting defeat for tonight and he’ll be on my chest snoozing shortly x

😭 it’s exhausting! That’s why I just had her in the c curl so I could drift in and out of sleep but I hardly got any and now I’m sat up catching up with Big Brother 💀 roll on 4am when my husband takes over! I hope you manage to get some sleep - this really is so hard x

that’s lovely that your husband helps out at 4am.
Night didn’t get much better for us and he decided to wake extra early this morning 😴 hope you managed some sleep x

I know bless him! Feel so bad because he then has to work all day but I don’t know how I’d survive if not! We coslept again tonight but it’s so uncomfortable that I can only make it until 2ish and then I have to sit up and have her in my arms - not
Convinced I’m really getting much sleep but it’s better than nothing because she won’t even go in her bassinet at the minute! How was tonight? x

aw yeah, but similarly you have a baby to look after all day so you also need rest!
Oh bless her. Luca is having an okish night tonight. He did 1.5 hours in his crib, had a feed and then did another 40 mins but he woke up, didn’t cry and then was slamming his legs for about 40 minutes. I was going insane but left him to it whilst he wasn’t crying, so not sure if that’s an attempt at self soothing. Anyway, he must’ve got fed up as he cried and is now having a feed! I feel a little refreshed where I’ve had more than 5 minutes sleep so I’m ready to persevere with putting him back down each time, but we will see how that goes towards the final stint of the night 🙈x

Oh bless him that’s so good! Maybe that’s a little bit of light showing he is trying! I know it’s still not great but little wins! All my fingers crossed for the rest of the night! x