How would you feel about going on a weekend long bachelorette trip with a lesbian?

It’s a weekend beach trip & we’ll all be staying at an AirBNB. Idk if it matters but she’s not really traditionally feminine in how she dresses

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What would her being a lesbian and not being feminine have to do with me?

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seconded👆or how she dresses???
If y’all have to share a room tho, what matters is if she snores lol

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Are you also a lesbian and youre worried you’ll fall in love at the beach?

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lol I’m jus commenting so I can come back to see OPs response to her own post. Cuz we are all geniunely curious what a woman’s sexuality or her not really being traditionally feminine have anything to do with u & the bachelorette? I’m sorry bt why would anyone not wanna go, why does this matter, why would ppl feel uncomfortable? I’m so confused, wats the problem?

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If she's a friend you both know where you stand ..idk what the problem is

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ahhh yes the beach lesbian romance. Good theory. I thought it's because they are straight and think every lesbian wants to have sex with them which is delulu.

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I would be comfortable, but with me being bi, I’m sure my husband would get the wrong idea lol. If I were straight, I still wouldn’t be uncomfortable. I used to sleepover at my friend’s house often & she had a crush on me, but I wasn’t into her like that. Still never felt uncomfortable. 🤷‍♀️

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Thanks, everyone 😭💖 IM the lesbian lol. I’m going on a trip next month with a bunch of girls & I’m so worried about making them uncomfortable. I’m childhood friends with the bride & most of her new friends are fairly conservative. I would hate to be the cause for concern during her celebration. But it seems to just be my own anxiety making me nervous! People can be mean & misinformed, you know?!

This made me laugh out loud 🤣 If I wasn’t married I could only hope for such a cute romance story lolol

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Like red hat conservative or just a little uppity?

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That’s something I’m trying to figure out 🫣 I’ve been stalking their socials & I haven’t seen any red hats yet. So hopefully just a little uppity!

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With you being married, I would hope they would be less uncomfortable than if you were single.

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I’m DYING at the fact that we were all so willing to jump down your throat to defend said lesbian when in actuality we were defending you 😂😂😂😂
Reading the comments before I saw your reply I was READY and now I have to take a walk

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Lol same!!!!! I was sooo happy reading the comments 😭 I appreciate the support so much - especially when so much of what I see online is negative. Love my Peanut fam!! 🥰

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I was thinking the same thing. Even if I was single I wouldn’t go after a straight woman. That’d be super disrespectful of her boundaries. I’m sure a lot of people think this way though

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I JUST READ YOU’RE THE LESBIAN! don’t worry about what others think, if they’re uncomfortable thats a them problem & says more about who they are than you. be yourself & don’t change how you are for fear of offending or making others uncomfortable.

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I do agree with you completely!

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I would really hope your friend wouldn't put you in a bad situation.

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If she's your friend then I'm hoping that the friends she also invited aren't lgbtq hating ❤️. My best friend in the whole world is straight and that girl does not play about me. When she goes on dates she asks how they feel about lgbtq with some follow up questions 🤣 she wouldn't have me sit at a table with people who low key wished harm upon me.

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Honestly, I’d probably rather hang out with the lesbian. 🤍

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That’s so sweet!! 🥹 I hope they’re cool 🤞 Her early 20s boyfriend was very homophobic & had problems with me. So I’m not entirely confident lol. But she’s grown a lot since then!

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Have fun and trust that she wouldn't have you sit at a table with people who would treat you unkindly❤️

Many of us date questionable partners in our early 20s 🤣😭

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This was such a wild twist and I am here for it. 🍿

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I love that incognito is the lesbian! And I agree with @C on this if she is your true friend she would never invite you to an uncomfortable situation and should defend you if anyone tries to make you feel uncomfortable for being yourself.

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My friendship group has a friend just like you and we’d be gutted if she couldn’t come on the trip! I’d like to think that if your friend is a good friend she will know what everyone’s like and wouldn’t put you in a position where you would feel uncomfortable.

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am I the only one who was disappointed because I was all ready for a good Monday morning fight? 🤣 (I’m joking obviously )

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this doesn't surprise me unfortunately 😞

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I think it’s fair to say, with all the comments… that no. No one would care. It’s actually lovely that you have self reflected so much and are anxious to not make anyone uncomfortable being the lesbian. But honestly, in this day and age everyone is so so welcome and discomfort is caused within individuals, not by other individuals.

I hope you have a fabulous trip!!! And enjoy yourself and do not worry about making anyone uncomfortable xxx

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Was about to tear you to shreds until I saw you were said lesbian. I don't care what a persons gender, sexuality, race or anything else. A friend is a friend.

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