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Just looking for abit of advice I gave birth 9 days ago to a beautiful baby girl she’s currently in nicu with meningitis she should be home for Sunday. I told her dad and he just blocked me I can’t stop feeling guilty that I’ve gave her a dad what doesn’t care 😢

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I’m so sorry you are going through this.
Your beautiful baby girl deserves better than that.

As much as it will be difficult just focus on you and your beautiful girl, you can’t force someone to care unfortunately (I had to learn this recently with my first sons dad). At the end of the day he will be the one missing out, not you and not your baby because she’s better off not having someone in her life that doesn’t care then growing up knowing he doesn’t care

Don’t feel guilty at all it’s not your fault he’s the one that should be feeling bad for being an ass! I grew up with just my mum and Nan pretty much and they just gave me as much love as they could I never felt resentment towards them only my dad that couldn’t step up. I’m content with the love I got from my other family members and friends etc 🤍

just feels horrible cos she’s my first baby and I never expected to be a single parent x

yeah I just feel so guilty all I wanted was her to have a dad what cared x

not your fault, you are not responsible for a grown man’s actions, he doesn’t deserve you both! It sounds like your daughter will be better off with you, her loving and caring mama ❤️
Wishing your little girl a speedy recovery and sending you warmest hugs 🤗

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