Overbearing in laws

Does anyone feel like they never get a minute from their in laws since having a baby. My MIL works part time and her daughter was made redundant the same month my lo was born (great timing 🙄) anytime the mil is off work the two of them land round and want to see him. I'm sick of the sight of them. Ontop of that the sister in law is very introvert. She's almost 40, stills lives with her parents, has no friends and no fire to do something with her own life. I feel like she's living through us and her mum's enabling it. I honestly think she's thinks my lo is hers and again her mum pushes it. They have said things like my lo is the closest I'll get to having my own son. They are talking about taking him on holidays.Giving each other presents at special occasions from my lo (even though my husband and I already have) Buying necklaces for each other with his name on them and the sister in law even got her nails done and got his name painted on it - is it just me or is this weird? I've spoken to my husband about it but nothing has changed. I know they mean well but just with the way they act it's starting to get to me. Am I just being weird about it all or what do you think. I feel like it's ruining my maternity leave.

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I find their behaviour weird and inappropriate from the sound of it, maybe talk to your partner again and ask him to tell them not to come over as much in as nice a way as possible obviously maybe suggest that both of you talk to them together as he may be reluctant to say anything to keep the peace. As for taking your LO on holiday nip that in the bud unless they are planning to have you and your husband go too but I personally would not be letting them do that just the two of them. Maybe suggest to them that they could come over at the weekends as you want some time on your own during the week to bond with your baby as your not getting enough time alone which is actually crucial to bonding

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It’s weird. I think you need to say something x

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That is weird!!

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