Working arrangements

What’s everyone’s working/childcare arrangements atm? How many hours do you work, family help with care?, nursery, childminders etc?

Feel like my current situation isn’t working and need a change but unsure how to make it work

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We both work 5 days a week 9-5 and toddler goes to nursery 5 days a week 8-5:30

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My Jan 2023 baby is currently with a childminder 2 days a week whilst I’m on mat leave with my May 2024 baby but when I return to work they’ll go childminder (then nursery from Sep) Mon-Thurs whilst I work compressed hours 8-5:30pm. Not looking forward to the childcare bills🥲

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My husband and I both work full time and we have no family help at all. However, we both work fortnightly compressed hours (work 10days across 9), so every Friday, one out of the two of us is off and with our LO. LO is therefore in nursery Mon-Thurs. Drop usually 8.15-30ish, pick up 4.45-5pm ish. On office days I get in for 9.15ish, and leave at 3.45pm so can get back, pick up LO and sort dinner in time. Then I pick up any extra work stuff after dinner/once LO is in bed. What are you struggling with most?

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I work 3 days a week, my husband 5. Daughter goes to nursery the 3 days I’m working, she goes 8am-5pm and I work 8.30am-4pm. We don’t have physical help with childcare, but my parents are helping financially as my husband was made redundant as I returned to work and started a new career.

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I only work 3 days 9-5 but having 2 toddlers in nursery for those days. At the moment I’m trying to go full time as it just seems I’m working to pay just childcare fees and not getting any benefit from it. I don’t have any support so it’s really hard and I can only work around the help from nursery. I do understand why some people choose not to work because it’s stressful 😩

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I work 4 days a week and have Mondays off without my daughter (she goes to nursery). My daughter goes to nursery 4 days and has Wednesdays at home with my husband. I wfh so I see her a lot on that day.
My husband works 4-5 days depending on his shifts but also works a lot of evenings/weekends. He is off 3 Mondays out of 4 so that’s usually the only time we see each other properly or are able to get any life admin/DIY stuff done together.

I really thought I would condense 5 days into 4 when I went back but my HR manager said “wait - see how you feel” and I’m so glad she did as I am drained as it is.

Having Mondays off is like my only beacon of peace as we don’t have grandparents or a “village” to help us out.

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Mon - off

Tue- WFH with son (it’s a challenge)

Wed - office London 7:30 - 4:30 (sons in nursery husband drops and collects)

Thu - same as Wednesday

Fri - office London 7:30 - 4:30 (my parents have him)

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I work four days a week 34 hours; Monday and Fridays are covered by my partner (he works four days too) and I, Thursdays are covered by our mum’s but change each week (my mum one week, mil the next) and nursery Tuesday and Wednesday every week x

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My partner works full time and I work 3 days a week and son is in nursery those 3 days, we don't have any family help. Contemplating increasing my hours as potential promotion opportunities but not really sure I want to increase hours as really like having 2 days off with him

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I work 32 hours over 4 days, my partner does 15 hours employed and also has a business. My mom looks after my boy on a Monday, I have the Friday off. He goes to nursery Tuesday to Thursday 8-5.30

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My husband and I both work full time, toddler has been in nursery full time since he turned 1. I went back on mat leave for our second baby in August so I’m still on mat leave, but toddler has continued full time nursery.

I make a lot of money myself, enough without any government funding for both kids to be in nursery full time, so it doesn’t make sense for us personally for me to quit my job or decrease hours or anything. A lot of friends have family help or get the free hours etc but we don’t qualify so I’ll continue working full time after this mat leave as well

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I work 4 days, my partner 5 but finishes at 12pm on Fridays.

Little girl does 9-4 Mon and Thurs and 9-1 Tue and Fri at nursery. Wed and home with me x

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Full time work for both of us, full time nursery (8.50-6pm-ish for my daughter).

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Full time both of us. Partner is a chef and usually does a full day on a weekend and has Tuesdays off. I do Monday-Friday work but have flexibility (lecturer). So our son goes to nursery Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays 9-5, Fridays 8.30-3.30 and is off on Tuesdays with his dad. No family in the country. We have 1 proper day a week as a family, and 3 evenings (his days off and and an additional one, sometimes 2). During term time, I often work late on Tuesdays to make up for early Fridays.

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